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christopher
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How to Help People???
December 7, 2004 - 08:01 AM
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Hi
I run a charity and would like your views on helping people. One of our projects focus is helping young people, whether its with; bullying, sex, drugs, alcohol or family related problems.
Could you please post your views on how you think we can help young people. Each response goes into the draw for a bunch of FREE CD's (sent to your home worldwide - winners will be sent emails and names posted here if the winner approves).
E.g. More youth clubs, less adult intervention, better teacher education etc etc
Whatever your view is please let us know - I want to hear your views, not some 65 year old man on a rant.
http://www.openpath.org -> my charity home page
cheers
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December 7, 2004 - 12:08 PM
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Hi!
I am from India. We face similar problems in India too. The most recent 'news' being that 2 high school students from a very upmarket school recorded their 'sexual act' and sold them as clips over mobiles!!!! It brought into focus the level of aimlessness of the youth...
i personally think that young people need to use their energy and apply their 'need' for excitement. In order to facilitate their development, we need to do things that can give them a personal mission that is high on social usefullness.
1. Get them to do more creative work....things that can make their imagination run wild, without having a negative effect. I personally think that when you see that you have the ability to CREATE something, your joy and self-validation is strongest. Activities could include things like making movies, designing cars, coming up with new scoring methods for football, etc
2. Give them responsibilities. Like, make them leaders or co-ordinators of social activities that focus on teamwork an co-operative work
3. Get them to work with relatively more disadvantaged people and have constructive conversations with them so that they appreciate what they have.
4. Make them travel a lot to new places, not just for seeing tourist spots and scenic spots but for interacting with diverse groups of people. Travel sobers people. Get them to write travelogues. Publish them. Seeing one's name in print is exciting and infuses pride.
5. Remove the concept of 'rewarding with money'....since it devalues the 'act' of being sociall ethical.
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Soma
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christopher
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Re: How to Help People???
December 8, 2004 - 09:46 AM
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Thanks very much Soma. I take your point and will certainly consider them on our next project.
I think the aimlessness is becoming more prevalent time goes on. I see 12 year old girls with little more than a tablecloth on their body and wonder why things have changed so much. When I was 12 (ten years ago) I was still playing with toys and having a game of tag with my friends.
Please let me know if you have any more thoughts!
http://www.openpath.org
chris@openpath.org
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James Dagger
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Re: How to Help People???
December 29, 2004 - 04:39 AM
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hi
Im from Australia, problems like this happen across the globe. I for one would be lying if i said it had never happened to me or the people in my life. But whenever, i fell from grace, i always seemed to find someone to talk to. A good friend, a councillor, a parent, or girlfriend etc someone I trusted and who lend me their ear or a shoulder to cry on, so when the people in my life were going through the same things they would know that they could turn to me for guidance. A constant cirlce of trust and kindness.
The root of solving problems like these is simple communication. The best rememdy didnt come from a self help text book, but from the common sense and understanding of people willing to sit down and talk with you, those who would make you feel calm in the storm.
My best advice would be to get together a group of trust worthy, intelligent, consdierate people that you know of, and get the people affected by these problems to talk it out with them (like a communication council). Sometimes a parent, friend, or councillor can seem uncaring or to authoritarian when they dispense advice, but you would be surprised how someone completly removed from the situation, can be the greatest benefactor.
The only problem you face after that is getting these kids to trust your council, it can seem daunting and tiresome, when teenagers refuse to cooperate even for there own good but getting to a trusting state can be achieved though trust exercises and through mutual communication ( I'll tell you something, if you tell me something etc)
I hope this helps in one way or another
James Dagger
Sydney Austrlia
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Re: How to Help People???
December 29, 2004 - 04:44 AM
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hi
Im from Australia, problems like this happen across the globe. I for one would be lying if i said it had never happened to me or the people in my life. But whenever, i fell from grace, i always seemed to find someone to talk to. A good friend, a councillor, a parent, or girlfriend etc someone I trusted and who lend me their ear or a shoulder to cry on, so when the people in my life were going through the same things they would know that they could turn to me for guidance. A constant cirlce of trust and kindness.
The root of solving problems like these is simple communication. The best rememdy didnt come from a self help text book, but from the common sense and understanding of people willing to sit down and talk with you, those who would make you feel calm in the storm.
My best advice would be to get together a group of trust worthy, intelligent, consdierate people that you know of, and get the people affected by these problems to talk it out with them (like a communication council). Sometimes a parent, friend, or councillor can seem uncaring or to authoritarian when they dispense advice, but you would be surprised how someone completly removed from the situation, can be the greatest benefactor.
The only problem you face after that is getting these kids to trust your council, it can seem daunting and tiresome, when teenagers refuse to cooperate even for there own good but getting to a trusting state can be achieved though trust exercises and through mutual communication ( I'll tell you something, if you tell me something etc)
ed.uno.edu/sites/RWilhite/trust.htm
www.henley-
cov.ac.uk/public/advice/youth_dev/resources/Trust.doc
I hope this helps in one way or another
James Dagger
Sydney Austrlia
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Eduru
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Re: How to Help People???
December 29, 2004 - 06:32 AM
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Hi,
I am Eduru from Nigeria, this issue strikes me a lot because talking about the youth, i use myself as exmaple. In reality, we should always be mindful of things that are practicable and are easily implemented. i agree with the first respondent.
In Nigeria where i come from, the youths have turn major part of the country into a war zones and territories. Due to the high level of unemployment, idleness and redundancy, these, has forced this youth to engage in every kind of social vices and at the end of the dayaffect the nation at large.
Of course, Travelling and making this young stars writing about the trip will certainly improve their thinking IQ. also getting them involve in community project with some motivation will keep them upright most especially when they know that people are looking up to them as per their roles in society. Myself for example, i come from the Oil rich Niger Delta region in Nigeria, majority of the youths both graduate and non graduate are engage in militant activities to compel multinational oil coporations to conpensate the damages done to the community land. Due to the activities i find my self engaged in, i could not join them but rather engage in peace project and non violent conflict, as long as i continue to do this i will not have the mind of doing things that are anti society.
Please i like participating in Project like this, Mistro you can always extend an invitation to me when you have your next project.
Eduru
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Re: How to Help People???
December 29, 2004 - 07:30 AM
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We need a new world Global leadership.
From a 48 year young man rant.
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A Recipe for togetherness
December 31, 2004 - 08:10 AM
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Hello people,
I am very happy that this organization is helping people. and want to help more people and asking ideas from different people around the world for ideas opinions and advices. Even without giving you my comments and opinions, I feel that I am already a part of your organization.
Firstly, I think in order for people to listen to good ideas and to be in good conduct, one should have a good leader. Definition of a good leader? A leader that does not teach cause and effect but a leader that teaches others to look around them in awareness.
Secondly, with the young children, or those who in need of help, exploit their mind and soul in the most positive manner as possible.
Okay, let's say that if one does not have pencils etc to express their creativity, but what about sports? What about competition of using your voice to spread the awareness around the society. With your hands, you can use handshake as a symbol for your campaign. With your beautiful lips, you can make smile and your sparkling eyes to attract people to listen to you.
I hope this helps.
Shirley McSalad and her Tomato Friends
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