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Ernest Asiedu Caesar
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Ending a Relationship
April 3, 2004 - 09:18 AM
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Ending a Relationship
Ending a romantic relationship is difficult. Telling someone that you want to end a relationship - or hearing it from another person - can be painful. There are ways of minimizing the pain and leaving both people more comfortable with the decision however.
If you are the one ending the relationship, make a clean end of it. It isn’t fair to the person to simply stop calling. You can discuss it in person or over the phone, but be sure to make clear where you stand.
When you talk. Be straight with the person. Express your reasons for wanting to end the relationship, using "I" statements to avoid blaming or insulting the other person. Bear in mind the positive feelings you had in the past and be sensitive to the other person’s feelings.
At the same time, be firm. If you definitely plan on breaking up, don’t say something that suggests the relationship may continue. Doing so leads to false hope and just delays the inevitable pain.
If the other person is the pressure or threats to stop the breaking. Don’t cling to the relationship just to keep it going. Someone who wants to end a relationship becomes an unwilling partner. If you continue dating, he or she will probably begin to feel resentful and the relationship will sour.
No matter which partner initiates the breakup, speak fairly about the other person to mutual friends. When they feel rejected, some people say hurtful things about someone they used to go out with. This type of talk reflects badly on the person who does it. Other people may not trust anyone who talks of a former partner that way.
After a breakup, give yourself time to recover from the hurt and disappointment you might feel. Stay busy and spend time with family and friends who will be supportive. Some people move immediately into a new relationship, but relationships that begin on the rebound often do not last. After a while, reflect on the relationship that ended. Consider what you think successful relationship should be like. In future relationships you can use what you learned from the one that ended.
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Re: Ending a Relationship
April 3, 2004 - 06:17 AM
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Breaking up, if you r a guy (as i most definetly am) is much easier than if u r a girl. Then you risk being beaten or something.
Just too many guys still think with muscles than with brain, and too many see girlfriend as an "investement" and not as a humane being with just plain flaws as any other.
Ave Futuria
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Brian
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Re: Ending a Relationship
April 5, 2004 - 04:07 AM
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I was in a rocky relationship for more than three years. My advise? Get out of a bad relationship if at all possible. Those years can't magically come back and it's true that you resent each other in a bad relationship. Not a pretty sight.
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Luke Lieberman
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Re: Ending a Relationship
April 5, 2004 - 04:23 AM
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Ending? I'm in the middle of trying to start one and that is enough - I have ended three majors.
Just take a day at a time and begin to understand that your futures are not linked. You will find other people - and they will touch you in unique ways.
Sometimes it is just time to part.
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Udara
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Re: Ending a Relationship
April 5, 2004 - 04:46 AM
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Ending is not the point, making sure to have a concrete foundation in a relationship is vital , essential to ascertain that your egos doesn’t manipulate you. Or else,
the selfishness it self would mark the finale of the relationship
Udara
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