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The earlier the better
January 15, 2004 - 03:51 AM
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hi,
in anothre discussion about plannig life or let it happen, the discussion revealed an important point  : Marriage!
so should we plan also for it?
Should we marry someone coz we just fall in love or choose the right person with our brain!
should we be reasonable in choosing that person? Or should we take risks!
should we stick to our idea of the ideal man/woman?
to what extent should we make compromise?
should we be in love to marry?
should we marry someone coz we are in love?
should we marry coz it is time to marry?
should we wait for the right person?
should we let disparities come along a love story?
if you have lived one of these situations, please inlight us!!!
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You need to ask first , Should we marry?
January 16, 2004 - 05:26 AM
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Rim, you jumped in to planning it already befor asking should we marry?
I beleive its to early to answer those questions!
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Marrige plan
January 16, 2004 - 05:45 AM
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Hi Rim,
It's a good issue you raised here.
Some of these question are familiar to me
I do believe that it's not worth to marry someone you don't love.
The most frustrating thing that you think about the one you should love listing many things you love in a man or in a woman, but when you fall in love it's not really the same!
i left the ideal man i've been dreaming of and i'm happy with my love hopping it will lead to an endless story!
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Re: The earlier the better
January 16, 2004 - 09:51 AM
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hey haseeb too early for what?
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Re: The earlier the better
January 17, 2004 - 02:17 AM
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hey haseeb,
that's the deal but i think you don't have the same idea at 18 years old than at 26, don't you think so?
also wanted to tell you that it is very important to further your study even if you take a year to think about it and have other experiences,you should think seriously about attending university!
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Re: The earlier the better
January 17, 2004 - 03:09 AM
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Hey men , we have to marry when time ripes
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Just give it time!
January 17, 2004 - 09:33 AM
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I can give it some time, see If it happens itslef and if it goes without pre-planing and if doesnt happen that way then would need to make a shuttle plan and for all that you haveasked.
I know Marriage doesnt have to be for only love, I feel my carier would also be an issue to consider ?
Probably , Love and carrier! 50.50
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Re: The earlier the better
January 18, 2004 - 05:45 AM
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Well,I disagree with you Guys in the point of getting married in early age,I don't think it would be successfull I guess it'd be kinda immature...
I mean I'm talking about myself,I'm not feeling ready for a long term relationship and not even a marriage,and what if I get borred as usual,what will I do??Tell him Ok,let's just be friends cz I'm borred...
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Thanks Rim!
January 18, 2004 - 05:55 AM
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I sure know that I may feel different when 26 , but atleast now thats the way forward!
And thanks for the nice and sweet advice!
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Re: The earlier the better
January 18, 2004 - 06:04 AM
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I think Hasseeb has the right idea - you will be amazed at how little you life cares about your plans - just follow your heart - there is no decision which should come more naturally - you can't be looking at all the angles - you have to feel it.
Remember something - 40 years is a loooooong time to be ttatched to someone - so if I were you I would try living with them before you get married so you know if it is going to work.
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Re: The earlier the better
January 18, 2004 - 09:08 AM
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yes Luke , 40 years is really too long , as you know we can marrie 4 women in islam , actually one is enough . cause i think Egyptian women , makes a guy loses his mined lool . and he dont want to make them 2 egyptian ladyes to destroy his life , hahahaha
i am kiding , but actually i think the Egyptian girls ( not all) are crazy , they will make you lose every thing lol
even your job , mined and money
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Re: The earlier the better
January 18, 2004 - 09:21 AM
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wow Abdallah...
Those are important statements..
So,what about Egyptian women..???
And regarding that muslim can marry four,I actually interprete it differently,as this thing was originally created for a specific purpose,as it has a historical background when the wife of prophet Muhammmad couldn't bive birth to children,and it was an urge for him to have kids..But,unfortunately some muslims take it as it 's just a priviledge,they can just marry four for fun,which is considred an abuse to those women(his wives)
I agree with you Luke in your opinion,actually 40 years is tooooooo much...Actually,You just reminded me with that problem I'm having with myself,I have a problem with long term relationships,I guess there's something wrong with me,or maybe I'm just surrouded with the wrong ones..I don't know..But,you know guys marriage is such a big thing,It's just so hard to get committed to someone for a whole lifetime,what if you get borred after a while????
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January 18, 2004 - 09:38 AM
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i was just kiding . lool .
any way i think you are not that kind of girel i am talking about . i was talking on my bad exerience lool
with my 2 ex-girl freineds ( allah yer7amhom) lool
they were really destroing the meaning of life
loool .
when you say , hii . they olny say when will you marry me .
but i know you are open minded
any way i wish to marry a very nice lady , open minded and beutifful , rich cause i am broken this days loool . and i think i will be very good to her , what do you think yara about me ???
Do you think i will be a good husband one day ?
i wish to .
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Re: The earlier the better
January 18, 2004 - 10:06 AM
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hey abdallah,
just wanted to say something about marrying 4 women in islam,
it is not just yara that have another interpretation of it but all my country Tunisia, we think it was set for another period of time, other historical circomstances...
i'm sorry that you had bad experiences with your ex girlfreinds! i did have some experiences also but still can't say they were bad! they have just finished coz it was impossible to continue! i'm lucky then! i still consider them as freinds and still close to them
hope you will find soon the right one, as men without women are nothing
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We prefer to have marriage in early age.
January 18, 2004 - 10:31 AM
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In our culture we prefer to have marriage in early age because a lot of other planes and programs you want to implement are related to the marriage and they stay dangle until you marry and make a base, so marriage is important for bringing settlement in the life, and we think that an unmarried person has hundreds of thoughts in his mind, but all impractical and imaginary, but when he marry he detect that a lot of that thoughts were only toys he played with in his childhood, now he comes to his really world and start living realistically. So … these questions are helpful and useful for us at least.
That is about us in our society
Maybe other’s circumstances are deferent in their societies,
But we like to know about it.
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