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Amira Sobeih
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Mold The Perfect Boss
October 29, 2003 - 05:01 AM
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One of the most important relationships you will experience in life is that between you and your boss. The success of this relationship is paramount to the success of any person on the job. It is safe to say that how well we do at work and how happy we are depends largely on our relationship with our direct managers.
Bosses come in a variety of styles and types, and it is up to the subordinate to identify his or her boss's distinct style and adapt themselves to it. One of the two most distinct boss types we will deal with here are the overbearing and underbearing types.
First, let's look at what distinguishes an overbearing or underbearing boss. Ever work with a boss who assigns a task, and gives you the most detailed instructions ever, only to monitor your every step? Or a boss who finds fault in everything you do? Does your boss undermine your contributions or achievements, especially in the presence of outsiders? Does your boss shield you from any interaction with external departments and insist that all outgoing correspondence is routed through him or her? That, no doubt is an overbearing boss.
While you suffer under an overbearing boss, your colleagues on the next floor may be suffering from the exact opposite. Wouldn't it be heaven if your boss would just keep his or her nose out of your business, give you a task and let you be? Wouldn't it be great if you didn't get a daily dose of criticism?
Actually, that's not an ideal scenario either. Employees who don't get enough guidance and feedback from their bosses are not happy either. Nor are those who receive no support from the boss when dealing with external entities. After all, they do need a boss that gives them their "weight," so to speak, with external parties. And how can they be expected to learn and develop if they don't have someone to teach them and tell them how it's done? Do they have to reinvent the wheel every time they get a new assignment and no instructions to go with it?
Such an undiscerning boss does not make for a pleasant experience. When your boss is less than willing to teach you how it's done, or won't support you when dealing
So how can you subtly tell your boss that he or she is driving you crazy?
Talk to your boss: Let him or her know that their attitude bothers you and makes it difficult for you to concentrate and be productive. Ask him or her to give you a chance to follow instructions closely and then to be judged on the outcome, rather than to be micromanaged. Tell him or her that the only way you will be able to learn is by doing the task yourself, making mistakes, and then being given feedback.
But how do you get this all-important conversation going? Start by asking your boss to describe the best boss he or she had. Ask him or her to recount how his or her boss dealt with situations similar to those you encounter with your own boss. And then ask about his or her memories of their worst boss, and what made that experience less than positive.
You will need to choose the right moment to turn the tables gently, and highlight the points mentioned about the good boss that you would like to see applied to your current employee-boss relationship, and to also highlight the negative similarities between the boss's bad memories and the current situation.
The most important thing to keep in mind during this conversation is to keep it as constructive and impersonal as possible, so it doesn't turn into an unpleasant confrontation. It is also a good idea to ask your boss about how he or she views the relationship you have. After all, you may unknowingly be pushing all the wrong buttons and need to modify your behavior as well. Sharing the responsibility of making your employee-boss relationship work will make your boss more willing to listen to your constructive criticism.
Needless to say, the ideal scenario would be a boss who stands somewhere in between the two previous examples - someone who knows exactly when to give the right amount of advice, when to let you make mistakes, and when he or she should give you those few extra tips to help you out of a rut. But, it is also important to keep in mind that an employee-boss relationship is one that involves two parties and its success depends on the attitudes and contributions of both parties involved. So, help your boss become the boss you dream of becoming in the future.
REF: Career Resource Center
Amira Sobeih
Special Programmes Team
YES Country NetWorK Egypt
Sustainable Development Association
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Luke Lieberman
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Re: Mold The Perfect Boss
October 29, 2003 - 06:35 AM
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The best boss to have is yourself
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Roentgen
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Re: Mold The Perfect Boss
October 30, 2003 - 01:50 AM
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Reading your post Amira makes me wonder how it relates to my present job. I work with politicians, but not anymore as their confidential or political staff, but as part of the technical staff. That means I am pretty insulated from all the shouts which regular staff receive from their bosses. (What a relief!)Still, I can't imagine how their staff would approach bosses who think they are gods. (You know, the type who think that what they do cannot be questioned.)If the situation is more collegial, the better, the easier.
I have also worked as a member of the regular staff of a politician before and I only have praises on how he trained us professionally. We were made to defend our studies for example and that drove us to think more about our positions on issues. He really trained us and that is a good boss, no doubt.
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Crystal_Abongta
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A good lesson for Africa
October 30, 2003 - 02:08 AM
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This is good work done and I would recommend this to most bosses of African origin. This is in no way suggesting that all African bosses are bad but rather saying that they need to move on and be part of the changing process.
Dictatorship and the syndrome of the ‘Infallible Boss’ is so embedded in a good chunk of African bosses that I begin to wonder what would be used to wash them clean.
Personally, I have been bossed over the years by bosses who measure up to all the best qualities of a bad boss. I have also met those who transformed my life in the workplace.
Well as change has always been the most stable constant in the world, the bad species are gradually getting redundant as the light of education fills in.
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