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THEBEYONDER
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Sex before marriage is survival
March 1, 2005 - 06:56 AM
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All i have to say is before GOD introduce the bible to man, he told man and woman to be fruitful and multiply.
The quote that kills me the most at weddings is when the reverend, pastor or priest whoever is doing the marriage always say and i quote "by the power invested in me i now pronounce you husband & wife." WHERE DID THAT COME FROM!
GOD never gave man powers to bring to people together until death do them apart Because if that was the case there would be no such thing as divorce. The opposite of marriage.
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Re: sex before marriage
March 1, 2005 - 07:08 AM
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All i have to say is humans stop having sex means humans stop reproducing, married or not. And dieases been around trillions of years before man and will be around after man.
So sex after marriage you can catch a virus the same way you can before marriage. You might catch one quicker after your married because you trusted your infected partner.
Palestinian ,
there is one thing, how do you know you have a great sex life? if u haven't tried it with other women! i am happy that you have a good marriage and congratulations for that! do you have more wifes? and can you practise poligammy in Palestine? well still i think sex before marriage is good, also to find out what you like, but there are exceptions, if u know exactly what you search for, and you know the person you wanna marry can give that to you it's ok. sex is very important in a relationship, and ok, i mean it is true you can't base your relationship on sex, but still, b4 your marriage it's good to have it! personally i don't wanna marry, if i do, then later when i'll be old![/B][/QUOTE]
Matic,
Firstly I am only married to one wife. I don't have to 'compare' the marriage sex life with pre-marital sex. You look for the garden to settle in before marriage (without ruining it), and once you find it you settle in it and MOST IMPORTANTLY you stop 'comparing'...because very simply you will always find someone who is 'better' than your life partner somewhere in this world. The problem with pre-marital sex is that you can change partners as you change shoes..sorry for this expression.
and sex is indeed important in marriage but it is absolutely not the most important part of it.
Zionishot,
You are doing yourself a great favour by abstaining from sex until getting married. Trust me when I say you are absolutely doing the right thing.
and yes "sex is meant for after marriage". This is a very true statement!.[/B][/QUOTE]
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Gene Winston Owens, Sr.
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Only Man Has Sex for Sex's Sake
March 3, 2005 - 02:14 AM
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Ridiculous
April 8, 2005 - 03:13 AM
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I think everbody was bred differently and also has right to his own opinion. I do not support what most guys are saying about sex before Marriage.It is ridiculous,immoral and unbiblical.
I have not seen it in the Bible where sex before marriage was mentioned.It is just man made opinions. I do not support it and will never buy the idea.
Spiritually it exposes you to a lot of havoc.You endagered your three beings.
Also,this is immoral there won't be any atom of respect between the couples.One of the contributors was saying something about experience.Did Adam and Eve had any experience before cain came to existence? And as a Member af TakingITglobal AIDS is real you can get yourself lure to it before you know it when you are trying to have an experience.
Young minds should Beware!!!
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sex before marriage
April 19, 2005 - 04:04 AM
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I don't think sex necessarily brings in absence of respect, but there is a potential for that to occur like where people go out with each other just to have sex...
Why is sex before marriage so 'ridiculous' to you? Is it the idea or the concept or the potential for STDs or what?
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Re: sex before marriage
April 29, 2005 - 09:08 AM
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What if you have sex before your married? I believe it is a decision between yourself and the person you choose to do it with. As long as it was never forced onto you, and you feel you have reached that great stage in your relationship and you and your partner want to take the relationship to the next level, it's all good! In the end, it'll just be another experience of life that you may regret or perhaps be thankful you did.
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Re: sex before marriage
April 30, 2005 - 03:32 AM
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I appreciate your input, Bitsy. And everyone else as well. Being the starter of this thread, maybe everyone would like to know of my status since it has been a long time since i posted.
Well, i am still a virgin, but i am having a difficult time maintaining my sexual desires. The reasons i am not acting sexually are really the same that i stated at the beginning of this thread. The underlying reason:
1. I only want to have sex with one woman, the one i love. Thus, i will not (i think) give in to sex until i am certain to give my heart to her.
As you can see, my beliefs have nothing to do with the institution of marriage, at least not in a governmental definition. it's all about love, ladies and gentlemen. love, love, love.
you guys are wonderful and interesting. i respect every one of your opinions. (though some are simply missing the purpose of the topic: this thread has nothing to do with reproduction!! =) )
have a nice day all.
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sex before marriage
April 30, 2005 - 04:52 AM
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Originally posted by deadperson256
I don't think sex necessarily brings in absence of respect
In fact, this is not true. It again goes back to what your values and standards are; in this case, what are your criteria for respecting another person, especially someone you love and want to be romantically involved with or marry.
You cannot be right in telling someone who is saving sex for marriage that they will be unhappy in their marriage because they have not tried sex with others, or in telling someone who wants to "try others" before marriage that they will have an unhappy marriage because they did not save sex for marriage. YOU may be in a miserable marriage if you do it the way the other person does it, but that person will be perfectly happy doing it their own way.
It seems disrespectful to assume that an individual adult is not competent or personally developed enough to know what relationship situation he/she will be happy in. Even if that person is mistaken about what makes him/her happy, it is not your problem, it is that person's problem. He/she will live life and, with some intelligence, learn through pain and experience what is right for him/her.
There will be no conclusion in this matter except in understanding and accepting that it is a question of different life style preferences - the two sides are not "philosophically" compatible and not able to co-exist harmoniously in one relationship. The only solution is to find someone who is compatible with your own point of view.
Morals and values are a separate issue.
This is my understanding based on experience and observation of people.
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Gerald Derome
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Re: sex before marriage
May 1, 2005 - 11:15 AM
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All life forms desire to experience all that they can while alive. There are the "trails and errors" and "teach and learn" and "imagined and real" and "physical or thought" the "legal and not_" methods of attaining/inputing the maximum of what life has to offer.
The hits of all that our childrens hear, see, smell and do makes and influences which course they would, could and should take. At other times they are cornered or led into learning by, physical, blunt questioning and prying about what they know about the taboo subject.
Capatalism produces a lot curious, naive youngsters with time, space and resources.
Those who cannot hold the desire any longer should seek someone who cares and knows what the best solutions are/could be.
Religions and Governments duty is not to regulate natural forces but to keep everyone healthy and happy.
Unsafe sex and dirty sex and too soon sex is unhealthy for everyone in the long run. They hurt people when IT is done wrong if the doing must be done with or without a cause. We are all different and it has always been and will always bee, different strokes for different folks. On one MSN female profile i once read, "Once you POP you cannot STOP!"
That may be true but one must slow down until the right one(s)comes along.
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Re: sex before marriage
May 17, 2005 - 01:11 AM
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i think that you should wait till you are married so that way it is an experience they both could enjoy. if you are having sex then get married, well you will get bored and probally end up cheating on the one you married. but if you wait then you chould enjoy each other a little bit more then just liking each other for hust sex.
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Larry McAdams
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Good Point I Agree With You
May 17, 2005 - 01:59 AM
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Sex before marriage...My view is, if you have sex before marriage you must have in mind that person you are intimate with you are going to marry real real soon..Having sex for a long period of time such as from a month to months and years is not good with out marriage, but for some it work out, but for most it don't. You have to know from the start if that's the person you want to marry and be with the rest of your life. Don't just be blinded by looks and beauty. You have to study a person inside and out. Judge them by how they carry them self, such as outgoing,laid back,quite,spontaneous,goofy,and much more. "In other words judge their character" , what type of friends they hang around, how they dress, body emotions, manners, their hobbies, learn more about their past, what goals they have in life, what plans they have for the future, and what turns them on and what turns them off.. If you really study these you will know if that person is fitted for YOU!! Most important follow your heart,but you must not let your heart blind you by beauty which will only bring you only lusting for pleasure. In other words do your research first on that person and it takes awhile, cause you never can put it all together in one day or one night! If sex comes before marriage, atless discuss marriage and how you feel about that person before having sex, therefore both would have a good understanding of what each other are delicating their self to! Let that person know in advance, before sex what plans and intentions you have instore for the future... Sex is evil if you don't abide by the Bible rules. That's why there are diseases here for a reason to punish the ones who brake the commitment of one. God didnt set all rules for nothing, but for a reason. If you have something good you must appreciate what you have; if not you will wish you did...God has ways of punishing the ones who brake his laws deliberatily with evil intentions. My advice waite and do your research before having sex. Sex is a mind thing which is hard to control for some. The Devil know your weak areas and he use sex as one of them ways of destroying your mind; which it's easy for him to enter you by all types of ways of sex symbols. Alcohol and drugs are things that clog your mind with fantasies and the Devil ways of desire.. You can not do your research and do drugs at the same time trying to find your soulmate.. Things will only be tricky and harder for you to understand..This message is only my opinion..
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Re: sex before marriage
May 17, 2005 - 02:46 AM
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hey do you no what i really think? i think that this is all pure shit and please forgive my rude language but i think that you are going around the subject and refuse to consider it from the right angle. Sex is just a way to mentain our existance. it is the mean of reproductivity. and to save the human race from extention. and all this crap "oops! sorry again for the bad language" about it being a spiritual and romantic experience and plaplaplaplapla is just a way to humanize it and to add the necessary sofistication upon something that is completely primitive and animal-like. it's a way to say or to justify something that needs no justification from where i'm considering it. you know that Islam orders us moslims to not have sex till we marry and deny us all the sexual freedom of the west but this because of certain reasons like inheritance and the rights of the people and also to secure the social structure. so come on guys let's face it sex will still be sex after marriage or before marriage it is just the same a way to exist it is our complex brains that make us question abt it and make all the fuss. i mean look at the animals and consider.
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True sex should wait till marriage:-)
May 21, 2005 - 02:46 AM
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Sex is just best in marriage. For those who have fallen, its not too late. You can still maintain your purity and wait till you marry. Its no use giving in to casual and short-lived sexual experiences. The final psychological burden will be on you.
Perhaps you should see the TIG Petition on Youth for Waiting Till Marriage.
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Its up to you to do what you want
November 18, 2005 - 03:08 AM
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Sex before marriage in my opinion aint right..Well i think when you have sex before getting married, then there is no eagerness to finish from the church and go have your wife cos you already have a feel of it and its nothing new to you...
You might even end up getting pregnant before confessing your vows and you either want to abort it or get confused since the responsible father does not want to claim responsibility..
Anyway no matter what i say, it would not change the way you feel or your opinion about sex before marriage..So have it your way, the choose the right thing and let your conscience judge you.
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Re: sex before marriage
November 18, 2005 - 03:56 AM
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What if you don't plan to get married?
That is a viable option these days. I know quite a few couples who have been together for years and years without getting married.
To me, it's not about marriage, but when you know that person well enough to think that you can move onto that level. I guess perhaps that if they are worthy enough to go to that level, then they are worthy enough to marry, but not necessarily so.
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