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Peculiar
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Re: sex before marriage
December 9, 2005 - 12:14 PM
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Originally posted by luke
Uhhhh - hell NO!
Getting married with out any sexual experience is like a blind person picking their favorite color.
I 100% disagree with this view of point. Is not God plan for us to be having sex before that special d-day.
Thanks.
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existence vs. intellectualising about it.
December 9, 2005 - 12:39 PM
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Hey friends, many have explained what they stand for and sincerely, each one of us knows what he/she stands for and why.
However, as many have emphasised implicitly or explicitly 'sex runs hand in hand with responsibility'.
prostitution is the oldest proffession, i have heard people say, but upto now, the majority of human beings frown at it. why? i think, it is about the lack of taking responsibility for each other.
Personally, sex at whatever stage between lovers is welcome provided a few conditions are met.
1. absolute responsibility for each other
2. mutuality as the end
3. serious understanding of the consequences.
Many myths around sex, according to my opinion, are about keeping the sanctity of sex. sex is the only beautiful and most explicit way through which human beings and other beings can commune-- when their hearts can beat as one.
In sex that meets my set conditions, i think, the harmony and beauty that Humans yearn for is tasted, this fuels their quest for harmony and mutuality even in other areas.
My take is that, sex for curriosities sake is treating the other person more or less like a gorrilla in the scientists lab. sex without commitment to the welfare of the other does not fullfill the real purpose of sex rather the opposite to mutuality happens and that is 'allienation.'
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Re: sex before marriage
December 12, 2005 - 01:30 AM
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Originally posted by LolaSkye
gideonwafula, that was a great post. Thanks. When sex is misused in the form of prostitution or taken lightly - that's what I'm against. I don't need a piece of paper to tell me whether this guy makes me happy and brings "harmony" into my life. At least i don't need that piece of paper yet. So it really makes no difference  [/B]
You can say that again!!
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my opinion
December 17, 2005 - 08:05 AM
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Before I get any comments, this is just my opinion and I stand by it at the moment...
I've posted in another place on the same issue...but this thread is far more developed since I last visited!!
So...my opinion *steeples fingers* well...
Please understand that it is filtered through my absolutely raging hormones.
As a late-ish opinion giver, I will try not to repeat myself. And please understand everything I say is derived from MY experiences of the world around me, which may be at total odds with yours. Please, bear with me in any case
1. There are alternatives to "sex before marriage" which don't totally discount physical interaction between people, just...well...full on sex. So you wouldn't necessarily be a total innocent if you were saving sex for marriage. You could muck around physically with ppl and never come near to it. The media seem to do a pretty good job of exposing people to sexual content anyway...and anyone who reads a lot has probably come across reasonably steamy scenes before, in books. Plus there's the web. These things don't necessarily mean you have to have sex, but will definitely broaden your understanding of the concept/act.
2. As a teenager and a young person, your hormones are RAGING. Mine have been doing so for the last 4 years. They show no sign of abating--if anything they're getting worse! Although biologically late teens is best to have a child, in this society it isn't really socially acceptable nor practical. I believe that most people, especially at the start of puberty and even adolescence aren't emotionally or mentally ready for sex. Sure they may have the working parts, but it is a big thing, to be that intimate with someone else...how many people are ready for this? How many people can look at their lives and say "no, I won't regret screwing around as the preteen/teen I am now?" The simple truth is you CAN'T, not if you have hormones. Everything you see is clouded by them, generally. So it's hard to make a judgement at this stage...
I'm taking this as "generally, teen sex is premarital..."
3. For me, having sex with someone...going all the way...is a really, really big thing. I don't think I would unless I KNEW I was truly "in love" with someone (and here we ask the million-dollar question: could you please define love?" and that someone was totally and absolutely devoted to me...and understood me...etc...I'd have to be in a totally committed relationship to go that far. For some people, this relationship is marriage. For some, they don't feel the need to take this step (marriage).
4. A lot of people are saying "premarital sex leads to STIs and STDs." It can. But I'm just going to point out the whole "promote the idea of safe sex thing" here...it doesn't NECESSARILY lead to AIDS, incurable viruses...etc...just needed to point this out for my peace of mind.
5. This issue is a totally personal thing. For some people it works, for some it doesn't.
Ultimately, it's your choice. You will be influenced by parents/role models/culture/religion/peers/partner/etc... but ultimately you should know what's right for you.
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Re: sex before marriage
January 3, 2006 - 09:37 AM
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No one knows YOU better than YOU, So if you want to engage in Premarital Sex it all YOU and of course the other Party but as long as you are aware of this three grim consequences and are able to live with them then its okay......Go ahead and Have SEX.
1. AIDS.
2. Premarital Pregnancy.
3. STDs & STIs
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Josh Creamer
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Re: sex before marriage
January 15, 2006 - 11:04 AM
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I think we can debate this as much as we want but at the end of the day it is up to the individual. We should appreciate that in many societies we have free choice, we have to respect an individaul and support them with whatever choice they make. We have no right to impose our own idealogies on another person.
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