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Robert Masenamela
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Teens dating adults: Is there a limit?
September 17, 2008 - 03:51 PM
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Every human being is entitled to own opinion or veiws but when it comes to juvenils, their guardiansparents takes responsibilities for their actions. The leadership role by parents carves a pathway for a young person to grow into a responsible or irresponsible person. Teen dating carries a huge responsibility for the demise in living standards amongst all races rich or poor.
Where is the missing link?
Why is it seen as somebody's problem and not socital issue?
Where & when do we start to address it?
are we out of our depth when it comes to morals?
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Re: Teens dating adults: Is there a limit?
September 18, 2008 - 10:05 AM
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You know very well that most youth in different parts of the world are now trying to adopt different ways of life from other cultures that doesn't portray the morals in their own community.
this makes it hard to even begin talking about it because if you dare to do then you will not withstand the feedback.
We have to begin using media like internet in stead to address this issues since many youth can now get access now. But for now, take it that way!
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Re: Teens dating adults: Is there a limit?
September 18, 2008 - 12:51 PM
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i strongly believe that teens have right to choose who they date.Rememer that age is nothing but a number therefor if teens have feelings for adults they should go for it.Adults can help teens to develop into responsible individuals of which its in rear cases that teens dating their peers develop.ADults will encourage teens to workhard to achieve their dreams,some people only think that adults only needs to get in the pants of teens.Guys we should not look at this issue only on the sex part of dating adults but the good things that comes along.Most of the time teens from poor backgrounds enter in relationships with adults only to get money hance they end up being misused.
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Re: Teens dating adults: Is there a limit?
September 18, 2008 - 12:52 PM
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i strongly believe that teens have right to choose who they date.Rememer that age is nothing but a number therefor if teens have feelings for adults they should go for it.Adults can help teens to develop into responsible individuals of which its in rear cases that teens dating their peers develop.ADults will encourage teens to workhard to achieve their dreams,some people only think that adults only needs to get in the pants of teens.Guys we should not look at this issue only on the sex part of dating adults but the good things that comes along.Most of the time teens from poor backgrounds enter in relationships with adults only to get money hance they end up being misused.
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Re: Teens dating adults: Is there a limit?
September 19, 2008 - 08:23 AM
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Talasi wrote:
i strongly believe that teens have right to choose who they date.Rememer that age is nothing but a number therefor if teens have feelings for adults they should go for it.Adults can help teens to develop into responsible individuals of which its in rear cases that teens dating their peers develop.ADults will encourage teens to workhard to achieve their dreams,some people only think that adults only needs to get in the pants of teens.Guys we should not look at this issue only on the sex part of dating adults but the good things that comes along.Most of the time teens from poor backgrounds enter in relationships with adults only to get money hance they end up being misused.
Can we then have the issue of statutory rape if the teens are allowed to date adults?
It is in my humble opinion that the youth should not out of their age group.If they do and abused what happens.lets not expose these teens to exploitation.
Its also a question of morality what do aim to achieve in this age of AIDS.
Of course dating is not all about sex but sex can happen in such relationship.
If we are saying the teens can learn from adults WHY NOT PROMOTE MENTORSHIP PROGRAMS?In this way i believe they can learn a great deal from the adults.
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Re: Teens dating adults: Is there a limit?
September 19, 2008 - 04:21 PM
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When I raised this topic, the objective was not to deny anyone any form of human rights, but for us to look back and reconstruct our way forward. There has been a lot of changes in cultures, behaviours, approaches, ...etc. The entire world is in fact for ever evolving. As young people we should be saying what is it that we have learnt from our parents and the older people in general? what do we take with forward in our lives?
The isue of teens can not be played down by any means as it is indeed one of the main contributor to moral decay.
Wprescribe to anyone how they should live their lives or choose partners for them, but we can highlight the consequences of such tendencies, not to threaten the teens but rather to help them make informed decisions to avoid the abuses the we see everyday ranging from , emotional, spiritual, financial and physical as well as substance abuse.... all these as a result of making uninformed decisions.
My wish for this debate is to very soon see us puting together a guide which we could use in our various countries at youth gatherings or forums, to make this information available.
I used to be a teacher some years ago at a high school. What baffled me all the time during those days was that very young girls would approach me for dating. I still have no clear answer as to where did they get the nerve to do that?
This behaviour clearly indicate that there is generally moral decay. I want to make a difference without infringing on anyones fundamental rights. My community is negatively affected by this and I need ways and means to address it ... please help.
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Re: Teens dating adults: Is there a limit?
October 4, 2008 - 02:02 PM
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i think there is no limit for falling love.
if they really rady to move on...yeah..dating is no problem.
but if just find sensation...i do not suggest to do that
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Re: Teens dating adults: Is there a limit?
October 6, 2008 - 01:18 PM
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I have to take this from a biological aspect. Most teens have not matured cognitively to think about other points of views or long term consequences (in the form of years/decades). This is why relationships between teens and those significantly older than them are a bad idea. True, social and cognitive maturity can occur faster for some more than others, but within perameters and often involves complex social and biological factors. Also, its a difficult thing to measure, which is why there are statutory rape laws in effect for those under 18 in the US. Just imagine, the difference you viewed a relationship at 14 vs 18 vs 22. There's only a four yr difference between each, but a person's outlooks change vastly, which make it troublesome for teens to enter into relationships with adults when there is such a discrepancy in outlooks. Personally, I dated a lot of older guys when I was in my teens and have learned a lot from my experiences, and even though I did it, I wouldn't recommend it.
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Re: Teens dating adults: Is there a limit?
September 22, 2009 - 05:18 PM
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Teens are not adults pure and simple. The human mind is not fully developed until after 21, so it's foolish to think that they have the maturity to have sex or a romantic relationship with an adult. A 23 24 25 etc year old can easily manipulate and dominate a 14 15 16 year old, i don't care what people want to say. If you open your eyes you can see the examples of teen immaturity, from gun crimes to unplanned pregnancies to alcohol induced accidents.Age is not just a number it is a measure of your maturity and wisdom. Teens don't really know what true love is yet because they lake ether maturity or wisdom. lets not forget about pedophiles. I call people who lust after teens pedophiles because they are so week willed and week minded that they cant form a meaningful relationship with a woman there own age because they wont be able to dominate there body and mind like they want. with a child or teen it isn't so much physical attraction as it is that they can make them do what ever they want because they are stronger and smarter. that perverted mentality is what makes them pedophile and why teen must never date or have sex with and adult and the legal age of consent must never be lowered! If any thing it should be changed to "IF YOU ARE 21 OR OLDER YOU CAN NOT DATE OR HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE YOUNGER THAN 18." That would be a much more affective way to guard against sic adults and not criminalize an 18 year old for sleeping with his/her 16 year old girlfriend/boyfriend.
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Re: Teens dating adults: Is there a limit?
November 25, 2009 - 05:35 PM
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Age gaps at a younger stage of life seem bigger because of the changes that surround the age group. A 15 year old dating a 21 year old person is not only illegal but both will also have different needs. The age gap in this situation makes a huge difference.
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Re: Teens dating adults: Is there a limit?
November 28, 2009 - 01:12 AM
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There's nothing wrong with dating, as long as one know his/her limitation. Because nowadays, teens become more aggressive and its hard to control them to do what they want...
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Re: Teens dating adults: Is there a limit?
November 29, 2009 - 02:34 AM
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Of course, there's always be a limit for everything...they should know what are the consequences that might happen in their actions...
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Re: Teens dating adults: Is there a limit?
November 29, 2009 - 10:35 AM
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Culturally in Africa, that's something that is not acceptable. There is always a limit for that. Teens should really be understanding that they are limited to their fellow teens. 
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Re: Teens dating adults: Is there a limit?
December 3, 2009 - 09:47 AM
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ShadowFox23 wrote:
Teens are not adults pure and simple. The human mind is not fully developed until after 21, so it's foolish to think that they have the maturity to have sex or a romantic relationship with an adult. A 23 24 25 etc year old can easily manipulate and dominate a 14 15 16 year old, i don't care what people want to say. If you open your eyes you can see the examples of teen immaturity, from gun crimes to unplanned pregnancies to alcohol induced accidents.Age is not just a number it is a measure of your maturity and wisdom. Teens don't really know what true love is yet because they lake ether maturity or wisdom. lets not forget about pedophiles. I call people who lust after teens pedophiles because they are so week willed and week minded that they cant form a meaningful relationship with a woman there own age because they wont be able to dominate there body and mind like they want. with a child or teen it isn't so much physical attraction as it is that they can make them do what ever they want because they are stronger and smarter. that perverted mentality is what makes them pedophile and why teen must never date or have sex with and adult and the legal age of consent must never be lowered! If any thing it should be changed to "IF YOU ARE 21 OR OLDER YOU CAN NOT DATE OR HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE YOUNGER THAN 18." That would be a much more affective way to guard against sic adults and not criminalize an 18 year old for sleeping with his/her 16 year old girlfriend/boyfriend.In Thai
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