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Parents and Teenagers Gap?
September 29, 2007 - 04:10 PM
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I feel like there's a big Gap between parents and teenagers although recently i'm not one of them, but still the dilemma is going on, parents can not understand us and we can not reach their thinking, is the problem with parents or us?
I'd like to share your opinions about this.
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Re: Parents and Teenagers Gap?
October 7, 2007 - 08:26 AM
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salma86 wrote:
I feel like there's a big Gap between parents and teenagers although recently i'm not one of them, but still the dilemma is going on, parents can not understand us and we can not reach their thinking, is the problem with parents or us?
I'd like to share your opinions about this.
Hey Salma!
In my view, I wouldnt go so far as to call it a problem. Every generation has its values it had grown used to. Every generation has its goals it tries to achieve. Every generation has its mentality and attitudes, which it thinks is the most advanced and fit for survival. Every generation has its dreams and ideals, which it chases with patience and passion.
Times change. New things happen to humans. New technologies arrive. New developments take place. New attitudes are formed conditioned by those developments and changes. New aspirations are derived from what the incumbent generations sees and feels, conditionned of course by their legacy and the unprecedented changes. New ideals are shaped. New mentality is born.
When two different generations (the bigger the age gap the bigger the "difference" between generations in terms of attitudes, behavioral patterns and mentality) share the same physical location, these differences might give birth to frictions and misundestandings.
Some prefer to call them problems to be solved. I prefer to call them challenges to be surmounted.
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Re: Parents and Teenagers Gap?
October 7, 2007 - 03:39 PM
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thnax for ur view
Your right it's maybe a problem to be solved but it needs some patience from the Parents side and some co-opration from the Teenagers, otherwise i guess it 's really diffecult to get one another spacially after this new centuray and all the changes that happened around us!
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October 21, 2007 - 11:25 PM
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From my point of view, parents are capable of acting as our best friends as well as mentors.They are more mature that us because their social and life experience.It is not difficult to get along well with them if we attempt to understand them from the bottom of our hearts.
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October 22, 2007 - 04:08 PM
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There is definitley a gap between parents and teens, but I think that this has been the case for just about forever. I think that there has to grow a gap between parents and teens. It's like a mechanism, which seems to make it easier to adapt to the situation that eventually comes about when they leave and set out on their own.
And in the case where there is a gap, the parents are the ones who notice the "gap". They fail to realize that they did it before.
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October 23, 2007 - 02:11 PM
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I could kind of c it 4rm ur side where parents n teens definitely need their space. but personally I think it's like parents jus dont understand.
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October 23, 2007 - 02:44 PM
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I think that as the years go on, more and more parents will have a wider gap between their children, because most people aren't getting married as young as they used to. I think that parents don't understand because they've done everything we have and are worried for our own safety. Parents are sometimes naive but for the most part everything we do they've done when they were younger.
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October 23, 2007 - 03:04 PM
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chelsea0lam wrote:
. I think that parents don't understand because they've done everything we have and are worried for our own safety..
Your right about thos point, but just coz they have done everything before, and they are concern about our safety ,it doesnt mean that they are right also, coz they might not following, we might know better then them. but seems like this gap hard to be fixed, coz i guess parents will always be the same.
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Re: Parents and Teenagers Gap?
October 23, 2007 - 07:51 PM
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I had to join this forum..
I am a parent of a 15 year old daughter..
In my opinion all it takes is a bit of give and take and understanding from both sides..She understands me and I try to understand her views on certain issues..Believe me when I say it's really not that easy being a parent this day and age and I'm sure you'll all agree if and when you all have children of your own..
But I do understand where you are all coming from..I used to be a teenager myself..many years ago 
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October 24, 2007 - 11:44 AM
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godisaboy wrote:
From my point of view, parents are capable of acting as our best friends as well as mentors.They are more mature that us because their social and life experience.It is not difficult to get along well with them if we attempt to understand them from the bottom of our hearts.
i firmly agree. this so-called generation gap was created in america in the 1950s when marketers and tv networks started to cater to the youth. but the generation gap isn't real. it's just promoted by the media. parents are gifts. they understand us like no one else.
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Re: Parents and Teenagers Gap?
October 24, 2007 - 02:21 PM
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hey every one...
this is a great topic !
i think that things do indeed change as the years pass by.
things may not be as they were 10 years ago or whatever.
i recently learned about the Box and the circle of life in which we all give our contributions.
the box only focusses on the job we have to do for it and only points at us for making mistakes.
on the other hand the circle is a place where we can sit back with our family and enjoy some good stuff togheter... it's a connection that cares and doesn't only look at what we do wrong but complements the good things as well.
nowadays, for example, the box makes us do extra work and has this presure on us,...so i think that even if parents want to give their children all the attention they need. they sometimes can't because they have to work or do other stuff.
this means that parents and children, these days, may walk beside each other and miss certain things.
if parents don't spend much time with their children... will they know what their children love and/or can the children share certain feelings with them.
if there is no connection we won't understand each other !
so... i think this is something that also brings the gap between parents and children !
what do you think ?! let us all know.
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Re: Parents and Teenagers Gap?
October 24, 2007 - 03:31 PM
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Affiba wrote:
hey every one...
this is a great topic !
i recently learned about the Box and the circle of life in which we all give our contributions.
the box only focusses on the job we have to do for it and only points at us for making mistakes.
on the other hand the circle is a place where we can sit back with our family and enjoy some good stuff togheter... it's a connection that cares and doesn't only look at what we do wrong but complements the good things as well.
this means that parents and children, these days, may walk beside each other and miss certain things.
if parents don't spend much time with their children... will they know what their children love and/or can the children share certain feelings with them.
if there is no connection we won't understand each other !
what do you think ?! let us all know. *
thanx,,,
i guess the idea of the box it's really intersting, doesnt have to be the same way, but the idea of connection it really what matters, i think that it's the real gap between both teenagers and parents, coz i can imagin if there's connection between both of them, at least parents will try to share their children their own thoughts and way of thinking, and children will try to understand their parents' points of view.
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October 24, 2007 - 05:24 PM
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i think the problem begins with communication.
ive always been close to my parents and they have been very supportive with me..all the way..
if only parents will try to understand the different improvements/ development of the new generation and children would listen to their parents advice etc. then i think there could at least be an undertstanding to both parties and in the long run effective communication will be achieved..
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Re: Parents and Teenagers Gap?
October 29, 2007 - 01:51 AM
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This has never really been a problem for me, I'm very close with my parents- basically being a 17 year old female carbon-copy of my father. A lot of my friends aren't close at all with their parents and think my relationship with mine is kinda odd- actually being friends with my parents-but i wouldn't change it for anything. I think closing this 'gap' defiantly starts with communication - I've always felt like I can tell my parents anything. Actually spending time together as well -my father works at my school so I basically can't get away from him. relationships work both ways- we can't just say that our parents 'don't understand us' and expect them to drop everything to be our best friends- we need to put in an effort to- maybe even try and understand where they're coming from for a change.
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Re: Parents and Teenagers Gap?
November 23, 2007 - 12:16 PM
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From my own perspective, I'd rather say that the gap between the parents and the teenagers is getting wider and wider . . . . and the reasons are not far-fetched!
Take for an instance, in my Country, due to the Economical Situation and level of Poverty, Parents are trying real hard to make ends meet, they do different jobs so as to meet up with life challenges. And this to the detriment of their children who are left at the mercy of the househelps/maid.
Mothers are no longer S.A.H.M (acronymns for Sit At Home Mums). . . .every parent wants to work! and this inversely affects the communication link between mother and child. An average Lagosian worker in Nigeria wakes up as early as 5:00am and gets back from work probably 10:00pm at night. . . .where then is the time for adequate communication with the children and the teenagers?
This post was edited on: 2007-11-24 at 12:36 PM by: Olowoyeye Oluwatosin Anu
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