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Lyndon Aguiar
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When is it OK to say "no" to a family member?
June 7, 2007 - 01:23 PM
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As a mental health practitioner, I have frequently encountered the situation where clients are caught between expressing their own needs and the needs of their family. I know that culture can play heavily into the decision whether to say "no" or not to a family member. What is your perspective on when it is appropriate to say "no?" 
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Re: When is it OK to say "no" to a family member?
June 7, 2007 - 07:07 PM
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its funny you know today my mom was just talkin to me about that
i used to protest most of the time when i was so young
and i keep on saying no nowadays but that cause i know my mom if i told her yes once she would stick to that point of view for th rest of her life so sometimes i honestly say no while am sure thats wrong but i just cant say yes and open the doors of hell on my face you got me 
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Re: When is it OK to say "no" to a family member?
June 7, 2007 - 10:49 PM
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I follow orders from my parents if I know it is good for me, even if I do not really want to do it (OK, most of the time...)
If either of them told me to do something that was not in my best interests and not harmful to them, I would ignore them completely. I'd feel bad about it, but I would.
If, say, my mom needed somebody to take care of her, I would do it.
If my mom asked me to completely support her while she was still capable of partially or completely supporting herself, I have no idea what I would do. Fortunately, I doubt I will ever have to decide that.
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Re: When is it OK to say "no" to a family member?
June 8, 2007 - 01:52 AM
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when its mere a tanturm ,a despotic demand that can ruin your happiness,that forces u to take a step backward or harm your progress.dont let any body harm ur reputation and ruin your life by taking wrong decisions about ur life.
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Re: When is it OK to say "no" to a family member?
June 11, 2007 - 04:26 AM
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ljaguiar wrote:
As a mental health practitioner, I have frequently encountered the situation where clients are caught between expressing their own needs and the needs of their family. I know that culture can play heavily into the decision whether to say "no" or not to a family member. What is your perspective on when it is appropriate to say "no?" *
well, this is a tricky question for me
it depends on two things:
1) who's the family member
2) is it something that i approve
like for example, if my mom tells me to do something i'd never say no...coz i never want her to be upset
but my brothers, oh-yeeeah i'd say no no no no and no 
when is oit appropriete to say no? when i'm asked to do something that i can't handle..not expert in or just don't have the time to do
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Re: When is it OK to say "no" to a family member?
June 11, 2007 - 08:58 AM
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I believe it would be appropriate for one to say no when they believe the demand put to them by family are unreasonable and beyond their own means.
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Re: When is it OK to say "no" to a family member?
June 12, 2007 - 05:38 AM
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I think it's allways difficult to say "no" to a family member, but nevertheless it depends on request. What is really crucial that is to remain reasonable and think about aftermath of your deeds.
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Re: When is it OK to say "no" to a family member?
June 14, 2007 - 01:36 PM
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It's appropriate to say no when they want to impose their will on you and you know 110% it's not what you want or would be happy with.
Case in point, I have become a black sheep recently with my family for choosing a man who in their eyes has nothing to give me but love as against a man who has material things but is an abuser.
At this point, it hardly matters what is their opinion about me, I have spent my life living too long for "them" and putting my happiness on hold.
I would tell anyone, what makes you happy? When they reply, I only have 3 words, "The do it" for in doing what makes us happy we live better, fulfilling lives.
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Re: When is it OK to say "no" to a family member?
June 15, 2007 - 08:54 AM
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umm when i come to think about it for some time
parents (mother and father) after lets say 15 years of getting their son/daughter they started to feel like gods they say yes its a yes and no then it shall be a no
i dont see most of the decisions any family takes for theirs kids are right because simply those parents were born in a different era and different circumstances then the ones we are born in so why cant you simply let your kids choose let him even do it wrong so he will learn.
off course if my mom wanted help in something thats a different issue but dont ask me to say yes to my mom if she asked me for example "you stay here you wont go to another country to work" or "marry this or dont marry that"
that would probably the last words i would be listening to her before i leave her for good
am kinda rebellion to be honest and i hate that someone gets control of my own life regardless who he/she/it is  right or wrong they are as long as its not me who took that decision its void 
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