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dating sites or how internet makes people meet
December 1, 2006 - 02:07 PM
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Nowadays more and more especially young people replace their social life with the virtual social life. They meet new people online, chat with them, exchange pictures, work on common projects, etc, etc. ...and all this through internet.
Stories of marriages of online daters are bcoming moe and more a common place rather than an exception.
What do you think is the possible future of the social aspect of our lifes online and in the real life , given the internet, it seems, will not relinquish its grip? Do you think one day we will stop meeting people in real life and will do so only online? If yes, when?
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Re: dating sites or how internet makes people meet
December 1, 2006 - 07:46 PM
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Mmmmmm interesting..
dating on the internet is something happening and we cant deny that , also we cant deny the successful love sotries over the net but what percentage does it take comparing to the not successful ones...i mean some times you like what the person say and you fall in love with the image you create of him/her but as soon as you meet something in the nature of him/her or that thing that the eyes only can say makes that image goes down and makes you step back
the internet is taking a big space of the social life not only between ppl outside the house but between ppl who are living at the same house, husbands are spending more than 5 hours aday in the avarage time ,for work or for any other reason, even at holiday times , and wifes choos to nag and nag and nag .some husbands told their stories with the internet on tv they said they are spending more than 10 hours daily they even eat their meals on the computer disk, one said that the 30m that take from his office to his house bother him the most coz that when he has to leave the net at his office to arrive his house and continue on the house net 
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Re: dating sites or how internet makes people meet
December 2, 2006 - 04:26 AM
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I do believe that this is a serious issue and it's affecting alot of people's lives as Heba said husbands and wives , kids, friends...etc. Will it come over social life? it has already started but this dependes on the person himself and on the culture for exaple in arabian societies family relationships and ties are alot and stronger than in other societies so I think even this aspect plays a big role in this ...for me if I spend 1 hour on the internet or 8 hours at the end I am going to meet not only my family members but probably also some of my relatives
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Re: dating sites or how internet makes people meet
December 2, 2006 - 04:35 AM
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another thing just come to my mind is that I see that the disadvantages of meeting people online are alot serious and dangerous from advantages alot of kids and girls were raped through meeting people online ,alot of relationships were destroyed , a girl or a young kid could be talking to a murderer online and not knowing that and who knows where that talking is gonna lead them ??! using something like the internet is great but we have to be careful all the time because you can never know how bad and serious things can be from this thing, and as Heba said there are stories of successful relationships and marrieges through online dating or chatting but when we should compare them to the ones that failed ...because then things would be more obvious and clear
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Re: dating sites or how internet makes people meet
December 2, 2006 - 06:05 AM
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Dating and other internet activities are good a thing, personally I'm eager to see when we can buy cooked food through the internet or something more interesting like that!
But I thinking also if internet will not take much of our time than OUR farms, then how would the future deal with this maybe when there is lack of people to do jobs out side internet?
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Re: dating sites or how internet makes people meet
December 2, 2006 - 10:20 AM
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i think meeting someone online and getting involved in a relationship is not a very good idea ...this is is basically because if u want to know the true self of a person u need to be with person...sometimes eyes of a person speak more than words ...
virtual life can be no substitute for real life...Period
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Re: dating sites or how internet makes people meet
December 2, 2006 - 11:00 AM
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It's hard for me to conceive the idea of a world where everything is done online. I mean, wouldn't we miss actual human contact? They say you can't live without others.
On the other hand, nowadays technology is unstoppable. And that makes me wonder... how much time until we replace actual physical social life with an online social life? All the barriers of online contact seem to be breakable and, some of them, broken.
They say you can't live without others. But now you don't even have to be near others, you can just contact them through the Internet. Personally, I think this is kind of scary.
However, I myself feel affected by this online comunication. You can't deny, it is appealing, despite all the downsides.
I just hope Internet addiction doesn't become a normal thing...
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Re: dating sites or how internet makes people meet
December 2, 2006 - 11:04 AM
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I think most people will always use the internet to augment and support real life socialization over a total replacement.
Overall, I think it is harder for our generation to meet others and to stay committed or maintain social relationships for a number of reasons like lack of job security and increased expectations of mobility from young employees. The internet can help maintain these bonds.
I do think though, that generally, there is a decline in the quailty of communication people have online esp in terms of listening skills which often do not get used. It's difficult to "listen" to text that has no voice tone and body language. People tend to impose a lot of themselves onto "blank" words written online.
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Re: dating sites or how internet makes people meet
December 2, 2006 - 05:31 PM
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ok ... lets see ..
i guess that the Internet can be used as a good " first step " if two ppl are looking for a serious relationship .. but i dont think that we can fall in love just by chatting the other side over the Internet !!
i mean c'mon guys !!! we all know that its important to look at ur partner's face and talk to him/her face - to - face .... maybe u wont like him/her when u chat on msn !!! but when u both meet together then maybe u'll both change ur opinions and start thinking that he's/she's the one !!
anyway ... dont look for LOVE ... LOVE comes to u at the appropriate time and place * ... thats wt i believe in *
have a nice day all
Sam
This post was edited on: 2006-12-02 at 05:32 PM by: mrsamer2005
This post was edited on: 2006-12-02 at 05:32 PM by: mrsamer2005
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Re: dating sites or how internet makes people meet
December 6, 2006 - 12:51 PM
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ami86 wrote:
i think meeting someone online and getting involved in a relationship is not a very good idea ...this is is basically because if u want to know the true self of a person u need to be with person...sometimes eyes of a person speak more than words ...
virtual life can be no substitute for real life...Period
i do agree, but to some extent.
Internet gives a truly global reach. One doesn't have to buy a ticket to meet someone from another country. Algthough the number of internationals and expats is growing in every country, I still believe the "reach" and "choice" from among those is not quite as rich as via Internet.
Secondly, I also believe that one can be with a person in the real life for 10 years and still not know that person well, whereas the Internet inherently encourages people to have a rather "intentisified" exchange of information about each other (of course the disadvantages being that here one can also cheat easily and leave an impression of someone totally different from his/her true self), which makes it easier to "get to know someone."
I find that looking-in-someone's-eyes and the Internet approach are rather complementary. Many things cannot be expressed via Internet, especially when it comes to sentimental issues, but much more information can be effectively exchanged via Internet than in real life.
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Re: dating sites or how internet makes people meet
December 6, 2006 - 12:59 PM
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Leoflamma wrote:
It's hard for me to conceive the idea of a world where everything is done online. I mean, wouldn't we miss actual human contact? They say you can't live without others.
On the other hand, nowadays technology is unstoppable. And that makes me wonder... how much time until we replace actual physical social life with an online social life? All the barriers of online contact seem to be breakable and, some of them, broken.
They say you can't live without others. But now you don't even have to be near others, you can just contact them through the Internet. Personally, I think this is kind of scary.
However, I myself feel affected by this online comunication. You can't deny, it is appealing, despite all the downsides.
I just hope Internet addiction doesn't become a normal thing...
50 years ago It was also hard to conceive the idea of having a small and slim piece of box, which would be easily fitted in a pocket and which would enable us to connect to all over the world by pressing couple of buttons - the cell phone.
Anyhow there is the tendency of so-called technological convergence whereupon everything goes online and gets packed into one. A Google email being a one conspicious piece of example, which allows one to write emails and chat all from one page.
There s an increasing amount of so-called online societies (esp. those evolving around certain famous personalities, actors, or group of people with common interest but being physically located all over the world), which are reflections of real societies. Rules, events and life in these online societies is exactly reflecting the real life except that communication happens in a rather virtual way.
I see this as not a total subsitute but again rather a complement to real societies, and I do agree with Erica that people, especially young, who are a lot on the move, need the online world to sustain and develop relationships.
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Re: dating sites or how internet makes people meet
December 7, 2006 - 10:59 AM
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mnopq wrote:
i do agree, but to some extent.
Internet gives a truly global reach. One doesn't have to buy a ticket to meet someone from another country. Algthough the number of internationals and expats is growing in every country, I still believe the "reach" and "choice" from among those is not quite as rich as via Internet.
Secondly, I also believe that one can be with a person in the real life for 10 years and still not know that person well, whereas the Internet inherently encourages people to have a rather "intentisified" exchange of information about each other (of course the disadvantages being that here one can also cheat easily and leave an impression of someone totally different from his/her true self), which makes it easier to "get to know someone."
I find that looking-in-someone's-eyes and the Internet approach are rather complementary. Many things cannot be expressed via Internet, especially when it comes to sentimental issues, but much more information can be effectively exchanged via Internet than in real life.
i was specifically refering to dating sites on the internet...
i do agree to the idea that internet is a great place to meet friends and for exchange of information.
As far as dating goes i still believe if you want to know someone really well, you have to meet the person ...
And if even after spending 10 years together, people cannot really know each other then how do you expect those people to know each other through chatting.
Emotions are best expressed in real life...ultimately one has to switch off the computer and face the real world!
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Re: dating sites or how internet makes people meet
December 7, 2006 - 03:03 PM
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ami86 wrote:
mnopq wrote:
i do agree, but to some extent.
Internet gives a truly global reach. One doesn't have to buy a ticket to meet someone from another country. Algthough the number of internationals and expats is growing in every country, I still believe the "reach" and "choice" from among those is not quite as rich as via Internet.
Secondly, I also believe that one can be with a person in the real life for 10 years and still not know that person well, whereas the Internet inherently encourages people to have a rather "intentisified" exchange of information about each other (of course the disadvantages being that here one can also cheat easily and leave an impression of someone totally different from his/her true self), which makes it easier to "get to know someone."
I find that looking-in-someone's-eyes and the Internet approach are rather complementary. Many things cannot be expressed via Internet, especially when it comes to sentimental issues, but much more information can be effectively exchanged via Internet than in real life.
i was specifically refering to dating sites on the internet...
i do agree to the idea that internet is a great place to meet friends and for exchange of information.
As far as dating goes i still believe if you want to know someone really well, you have to meet the person ...
And if even after spending 10 years together, people cannot really know each other then how do you expect those people to know each other through chatting.
Emotions are best expressed in real life...ultimately one has to switch off the computer and face the real world!
All I said was general and thus applies also for dating sites specifically.
Virtual communication has one advantage: one is (usually) unconsciously (or consciously) doing (and is encouraged, obliged, or inspired) a more thorough information exchange (including exchange of personal info, tastes, habits, etc.).
Granted, the non-verbal communication is missing and that is the main drawback in the hitherto traditional male-female relationship.
As I said, virtual communication, including relationships, is getting more and more entrenched in the everyday life of young people all over the world.
Whether we like it or no, but one, as of now, will not any soon turn off a computer and get back to where one was 20 years ago, in every aspect of his/her life, including relationship establishment and sustaining.
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Re: dating sites or how internet makes people meet
January 21, 2007 - 09:34 AM
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mnopq wrote:
Nowadays more and more especially young people replace their social life with the virtual social life. They meet new people online, chat with them, exchange pictures, work on common projects, etc, etc. ...and all this through internet.
Stories of marriages of online daters are bcoming moe and more a common place rather than an exception.
What do you think is the possible future of the social aspect of our lifes online and in the real life , given the internet, it seems, will not relinquish its grip? Do you think one day we will stop meeting people in real life and will do so only online? If yes, when?
I have not tried virtual dating of some sort. But I do meet people online and make some friends. But nothing replaces the personal relationship.
The other thing is that some women are getting sexually abused through online dating. "Mail Order Brides" and other things. While it is true that there are successful marriages too, we cannot deny the fact that there are failed relationships and abuses.
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Re: dating sites or how internet makes people meet
January 24, 2007 - 01:39 PM
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Katea wrote:
mnopq wrote:
Nowadays more and more especially young people replace their social life with the virtual social life. They meet new people online, chat with them, exchange pictures, work on common projects, etc, etc. ...and all this through internet.
Stories of marriages of online daters are bcoming moe and more a common place rather than an exception.
What do you think is the possible future of the social aspect of our lifes online and in the real life , given the internet, it seems, will not relinquish its grip? Do you think one day we will stop meeting people in real life and will do so only online? If yes, when?
I have not tried virtual dating of some sort. But I do meet people online and make some friends. But nothing replaces the personal relationship.
The other thing is that some women are getting sexually abused through online dating. "Mail Order Brides" and other things. While it is true that there are successful marriages too, we cannot deny the fact that there are failed relationships and abuses.
Katea,
I think the virtual communication ca serve a good basis for the begining part of get-to-know, while it allows a much denser info exchange, albeit lacking the capacity of including the emotional and non-verbal parts of the exchange of the info, which sometimes is important.
I do agree that once the initial stage is over the more central stage cannot evolve on a virtual level. It requires not only "looking into eyes" but also smiling, touching, etc. none of which is possible via fibre optic channels 
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