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did yr love or best fren eva ditch u?
September 15, 2006 - 07:02 PM
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have u eva loved sumone n they d absolutely no idea whtso ever or fell for the best frens in yr entire world n thn sat arund n watch him falling for sum1 els?
well abt me.. i m lacking words 2 strt wid!
ma so called bes fren (i stil ve hopes she mite turn up again as she ws b4)..i tuk her as ma world more thn tht..n she too i guess bt b4.. its nt all over bt its nt the same at her side she is quite bisy in makin up new fren oh definitily its gud ..bt trying to turn up 1s back for the new ones is nt fair n worthduin.. i d a bad experience ..sumtymes things turn up like"ws it ma wrong decision 2 choose her as ma bes fren"! i m sad abt it  bt on the other hand God hs blessed me wid one more fren - worth calling him ma best fren.. he has lit ma life n has made me lrn how 2 rebuild maself.. (thank u so much budy)
thts all abt me!wht abt u hav u eva gone through such a bitter part of life turned up sweeter by sum1 els..
i duno m posting it on a rite forum or nt bt i cudnt fink of a more betta one!
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Re: did yr love or best fren eva ditch u?
September 16, 2006 - 07:53 AM
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hey girl am so sorry for your experience, if she is a real friend she will come back dont regret anything you have to accept your friend first as a person who has his ups and downs who makes mistakes then as a friend that make up to you for his mistakes ....thank God for your other friend try to be good with both of them
about me I've been blessed with 3 wonderful friends who make my day every day although we are all stubborns hehehehehe ...
good luck I hope that you all be surrounded with friends like mine *
This post was edited on: 2006-09-16 at 08:09 AM by: froot
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Re: did yr love or best fren eva ditch u?
September 16, 2006 - 10:59 AM
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ahh i too hope bt sticking wid those who js dun like 2 be wid us is useless.. i js dun hope now the patching up of things ..whteva happens wid us is 4 our gud i believe..
bt the blessing i ve gt later is not comparable nor replacable i believe!!
cheers
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Re: did yr love or best fren eva ditch u?
September 16, 2006 - 11:50 AM
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according to my experience , looking for best friends is not a good idea ! 
i still havent recovered from the scars my ' best ' friend gave me eight years ago !!!
she pretended to be my best friend just to gain favours .... less said about the matter the better !
no more 'best' friends for me !
just 'friends' are awesome !
at least then i dont make the mistake of expecting too much from them or letting them get too close enough to hurt me !
cheers,
Anu
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Re: did yr love or best fren eva ditch u?
September 16, 2006 - 07:34 PM
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I agree with Anu. I had a similar experience with my childhood best friend. We had been friends since age 3 or so. We slept over at each other's house a lot and were always doing things together. Then when we were in middle school, grades 5-8, I began to get badly teased. By 7th grade and at age 12, she stopped associating with me entirely without explanation, just started coming in school and acting like she didn't know me and she befriended all the "popular" girls, while I only got teased worse and worse and I became alienated and alone, with the exception of one girl who alternated between periods of joining in with those who were nasty to me and being my "friend".
I know my former best friend was embarrassed to know me and that's why she stopped talking to me.
Since then, I have never found another girl to be my friend, and I never got very close to or trusted those who would be my friend.
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Re: did yr love or best fren eva ditch u?
September 17, 2006 - 08:38 AM
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This thread will no be moved to the Culture board where it should be..
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Re: did yr love or best fren eva ditch u?
September 17, 2006 - 12:09 PM
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but i guess atleast one shud ve a best fren (n i ve gt tht although after a very long tyme)whose abv all n who makes u above all.. bt still.. geting ready 2 trus every1 n expecting sumthing or other is defiintely a wrong idea..
may everyone in this world continue 2 hav atleas a gud or bes fren !
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Re: did yr love or best fren eva ditch u?
September 21, 2006 - 02:26 PM
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In as much as its hurtful to be dicthed by a friends especially when you hold such in very high esteem, i believe that the basis of friendship should be understood before going into it. If that is properlly done, ther would be less of this heartbreaks. most people go into friendships with selfish motives and whenthose motives are not met, they cry hear break
Even when gunuiee friendship breaks and causes terrible heartbreaks, that should not deter us from making friends. we must always look at what the future holds for us, the nice people out ther we may never meet if we refuse to make friends because of one friend we lost.
I have also been heart broken, but one thing i have learnt to do is to recover quickly.
Have a nice time.
David
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September 22, 2006 - 02:00 PM
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i absolutely agree wid davids point of view n i firmly believe in
life is like the photography and v lrn frm the negatives
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Re: did yr love or best fren eva ditch u?
March 3, 2007 - 11:17 AM
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No one ever said that life was easy... However, everything happens for a reason. I stongly belive that. I had a best friend starting in 4th grade.. she ditched me by 6th grade, cause this other gurl took her from me... i lost her.. i was sooo upset.. i remmber crying home on the bus the day i realized it. However, in a more positive attitude, i look at her now.. and well.. i'm happy i strayed away from her when i did.. she has become a real waste. she is all into drugs and alchol..which i absolutely HATE. and DESPISE. she is also now a sex super model.... no comment on that...
I was scared to give my hand out again.. but my friend Adam noticed that in me my junior year in highschool. He gained my trust and i gave my heart out to him... i totally fell in love with him. <3
However, difficulties came up socially.. with family and well.. its an indian thing... we're not allowed to date...
Nonethelss, he left me and we did not talk for 3 months... those were the longest 3 months ever... But then another friend of mine ( nicknamed arsu) came along and grabbed my hand and pulled me out of the river of tears i had formed.
We dated and although we have been on and off.. we are still GOOD friends.. i can depend on him to defend me if ever need be.
Life is hard.. and we all make mistakes.. however we have to learn from them.. and be careful to give our heart out.. when giving your heart out.. its's a matter of trust. you have to figure out for yourself... how much you trust that person...and at the same time.. you have to be understanding...
my friend adam is now in the US army and staitoned in Germany, we still talk.. and yet Arsu is understanding and never held me agianst anything in my past.. He is just there with me, as my GOOD friend to survive the present and to look into the future.....
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Re: did yr love or best fren eva ditch u?
March 5, 2007 - 06:55 PM
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I think we have all had an experience like this. I had mine at the age of of 42. I met the most wonderful, interesting woman...we could only spend about 2 weeks together, though. She was working in another country. We started the relationship "just for fun," but cried when we had to part. While separated, I wrote her poetry, I would sit in front of the computer for three hours, just getting every word and rhyme perfect. There was always this pressure in my chest, I would forget to breathe, I thought about her day and night... After a while, her e-mails got shorter and she didn't send me an e-mail every day. Those days were a true agony. When I visited her again a few months later, she had changed. I could tell she had "moved on." I was gripped by a depression that lasted about six months.
I think at an earlier age, I might have contemplated suicide. But I think my maturity never allowed me to seriously consider such a step. With luck, we will all live (depending on your gender and country) almost 30,000 days. It is just simply crazy to think that one will never find happiness again. There is always a tomorrow. I have met another "perfect woman" and we were married two years ago. My happiness right now is so great, I can't find the words. But I have never written another poem...
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Re: did yr love or best fren eva ditch u?
March 9, 2007 - 01:17 PM
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The best friend concept is kind of foreign to me, but I empathize with your experiences.
As time has gone by, I have become more philosophical about friendship and heartbreak. You see, people do change; and when they change, they often outgrow each other and move on. It is sad, but it's inevitable.
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