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Ángela
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Domestic Violence
August 28, 2006 - 11:14 AM
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This is a problem all over the world. In some countries, domestic violence victims do tell local authorities about their conflicts in the family, but in others, they rather keep silent and live with the problem. What do you think about domestic violence? How is the situation in your own country? *
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Re: Domestic Violence
August 28, 2006 - 11:33 AM
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hi Angelusgutmann,
i agree, it's a really big and very saddening problem. in my society (Iraq) i think domesic violence is so common but no one ever talks about it and sometimes it's even considered a normal thing in nurturing the children. many parents beat their children and many men beat their wives, and sometimes violence comes in forms other than beating you know the shouting, humiliation, insults,..etc
it's interesting to see that even the developed countries have a relative high percentage of domestic violence. i really don't know what the solution is.
i think domestic violence reveals a dark side of the human nature which is to practice violence against those who are weaker physically.
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Re: Domestic Violence
August 28, 2006 - 12:58 PM
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I agree. I think its always been accepted that men should be the one dominating, the one who "rules"and women is expected to be their shadow. being a young adult, surrounded by "modern" minds, minds which are educated of equal rights, i was really surprised when i had a young doctor tell me that The woman in his life is supposed to be his shadow and follow his footsteps. This totally disgusted me...i'm not sure how i can explain but it seems that some cultures endorse this view (that young doctor being an indian) A man in many cultures walks with an ego that he is superior and when his ego feels threatened by watever reason it may be whether it be concrete such as his wife earning more than him or just that in his mind he feels inferior in some ways, he will lash out to restore his image...not to anyone else but to himself. i believe this is the reason why in many "religious", non democratic countries, the rate of domestic violence is higher. In these nations, women because of their limitations and because wat they have been taught is their duty, their religion, in someways end up contributing to this type of violence. They lack the freedom of speech and in many cases accept it because it is coming from thier husband who by the title of "husband" is now their God, the provider, the one to be not just respected but obeyed. Whatever he does is right. If he is using violence it must be becuase they deserve it. In majority of cases where domestic violence is the norm these values have been "programmed" in the women. That is why many times they go unspoken and the one who speaks of it is regarded as an outcast, is seen as the disrespectful one.
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Re: Domestic Violence
August 29, 2006 - 09:37 AM
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There is a case here in Colombia that was really polemic last week. A man raped for four years his 11 year old stepdaughter. The only way people found out was when her grandmother told the police because the little girl was pregnant. Not even her mother, knowing what was going on, spoke out. She knew for four years and she didn´t do anything. The polemical part of the whole thing was that the girl asked the Government to let her abort the baby and not that her stepfather raped her. He just confessed and he will be maybe five years in prison, and everything will be forgotten tomorrow. The girl has now been allowed not to have the baby. Other ways that involve violence against women and children are the religious practices of some parts of Somalia, where female circumcision is commonly practiced, even when it obviously has no biological or anatomical reason to be done. What do you think about these kind of practices? Check out also the website of the stop violence aganist women campaign of Amnesty International at
http://web.amnesty.org/actforwomen/index-eng. This is the English website.*
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Re: Domestic Violence
August 29, 2006 - 10:19 AM
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One thing I thought I'd mention is that correlation studies cannot verify causation. This means that even if we could prove that more "religious" societies have higher rates of domestic abuse, we can in no way say that it is these religious beliefs that cause domestic abuse. e.g. perhaps there is some underlying confounding factor that has caused both religiousness/abuse.
Also, a very underreported type of domestic abuse that hasn't been mentioned yet is the abuse perpetrated by a female spouse against her partner be that partner male or female. There is also the abuse of a male partner by another male but I'm not sure how much people in gay communities acknowledge this although I imagine it varies widely from region to region.
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Re: Domestic Violence
August 29, 2006 - 10:53 AM
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Esum is right, since the female circumcision in some countries is supposed to be part of Islam, but islamic religious authorities have denied this information. This practice is not part of the islamic precepts. And it's true that domestic violence against men is also becoming more frequent now, not only in a physical way, but also in a psicological way. If anyone has information about this kind of violence, it would be great if it could be shared.
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Re: Domestic Violence
August 30, 2006 - 05:35 PM
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Some Canadian links about domestic violence from CN's Public Health Agency. It also includes articles about abuse towards men and older people.
This database is a bit outdated and focuses on children, but contains links to sites and articles regarding different types of domestic violence, including disabled persons.
BBC site focused on domestic violence against men.
Hope these links help!
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Re: Domestic Violence
September 7, 2006 - 10:53 AM
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Well,as you have said , the problem is all over the world and there are alot of factors that prevent them from reporting what they go through.
One of these problems is porverty.You see,when a victim leaves in a house a where it is difficult to get one meala day,and can't aford hospital bills that victim will never report what happens to him or her when working for people because they know they might loose their jobs.
So for them it is batter to keep quiet.the best thing we can do is to start educating those who employ house helps about all they need to know.
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Re: Domestic Violence
September 7, 2006 - 02:51 PM
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Even though poverty is a factor, it is not the only one. Maybe it is also cultural because in a lot of countries, such as mine, rich people do get abused in their own houses and/or families, and they decide to keep silent just because they are afraid of what people might say. Sometimes, education and money are not enough to make a person understand that his/her rights must be respected. I read about another case in this forum that was about a girl who was abused in her house and wouldn't tell just to keep her family protected, Is so much sacrifice worthed and fair? *
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Re: Domestic Violence
September 28, 2006 - 07:29 AM
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Domestic violence is a big issue in allthe societies,but those who suffer the most are the women and children.
Most casesare attributed by drug abuse esoecialy alcohol .And unfortunately most cases are not reported and if they are they are seen as a family issue and not acted upon with urgency.
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Re: Domestic Violence
November 2, 2006 - 01:13 AM
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In India, Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act came into force last week.
This is one of the very significant steps take to challenge domestic violence- which 70% women face.
Some exerpts from the article:
"for the first time in India, a definition of “domestic violence” has been provided which includes physical, mental, psychological, economic and sexual abuse."
" it provides protection to a whole gamut of women facing violence, including mothers, daughters, sisters, wives, women who are victims of bigamous or fraudulent marriages as well as women in relationships of cohabitation"
The remedies under the Act are in the nature of ‘stop violence’ orders, which are granted by the courts on an application by the aggrieved person.
"Most importantly, this Act gives to women the right to reside in the shared household. In fact, this is again a first for the Indian legal system.this right to residence is the fact that this right is not affected by the property relations or ownership patterns of the household"
I wonder if the rights ensured in other countries are similar?
the article can be read at
http://www.indianexpress.com/story/15684.html
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Re: Domestic Violence
November 2, 2006 - 01:28 AM
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Thank you to Schweta-sj for mentioning about "mental violence" - this may be more prevalent than physical violence because it may be harder to identify.
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Re: Domestic Violence
November 3, 2006 - 02:07 PM
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Even though mental or psychological violence is as frequent as physical violence, it is not always so easy to detect, and many victims may not be aware of it. How can this violence be identified and how can it be punished? It can be carried out for years and still not be identified or spoken out by victims...
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Re: Domestic Violence
November 4, 2006 - 05:23 PM
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Are you talking about husband and wife or mainly to the women. If so, then depends on how women is economically active and educated. If she has earning and educated then definitely, she complains.
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Re: Domestic Violence
November 5, 2006 - 12:08 PM
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Sometimes even educated women won't complain, social structures and rules have so much importance that they don't let women or men to express themselves. Maybe issues like monye, social position or education level are enough to keep peoplo repressed.
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