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lame
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huh?
November 20, 2005 - 06:42 AM
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huh?
This post was edited on: 2007-02-20 at 11:59 PM by: Jenny-Lemalu
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Re: Sex before marriage
November 20, 2005 - 01:35 AM
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Interesting topic
In my openion in all religions, traditions, cultures it is directed to have sex with one partner, which is the natural, modest and sensalbe way; attachment to only one partner is known as marriage for which there are different rules and customs in the world.
I worked for a reproductive health project, I work for AIDS awareness project, I have experienced that the major cause of STIs (Sexual Transmitted Infactions) and the spread of HIV is due to sexual relationships with others then the partner.
Having sex before marriage, having sex with some one else while having partner and having sex with different people while not having partner are all equal in my openion. And should not be practiced in my openion.
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sex before marriage is it wrong?
November 20, 2005 - 02:42 AM
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well marriage is a union between a man and a woman,so sex is an intercourse between a man and a woman,so for me sex before marriage is not proper but some people do it,it an individual opinion.
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Re: Sex before marriage
November 21, 2005 - 03:54 AM
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AS OUR RELIGIONS ARE FROM ONE God WANTED TO KEEP US AND keep comunities so we agree that it is wrong not only for disease but also for kids ,look at problems of these kids who do not know father what did they do to prevent them from good life either alone or with problems of lonly mother. what happened if father marry his unknown daughter?
in poor communities the result is huge number of street kids. and in rich communities more and more DNA tests
there is always difference between dark and light
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Re: Sex before marriage
November 23, 2005 - 12:45 PM
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It's very traditional for people not to believe in sex before marriage. I find it very irritating when the bias is on the girls. It's okay for the guys to screw around but it's not for the girls.
Well, it's a very general bias.
I personally think that the rules should be for both genders. I'm not much into thinking in terms of religion, but there is little dissention. The benefits of abstaining from sex before marriage far outweighs the delight in having a backseat experimental romping.
I don't think I need to enlight you folks on it any more.
I believe it is still a personal right to decide, as long as it is mutually consentual and with sufficient protection (condoms, etc).
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Re: Sex before marriage
November 27, 2005 - 03:07 AM
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As for me, it is personal decision.
Why the issue of sex before marriage is so important? Because of the man's prejudice.
More often that not, most of the guys are so greedy, the majority of them cannot stand if they get married to a girl when she is already had it!
Beside, many people don't know how to protect themselves, they just blindly rush into it. It is very dangerous.
They can decide on their own if they get enough information.
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I agree with Quoc Anh
November 27, 2005 - 05:07 AM
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Is there any man wants to married the girl who belongs to the other? I mean the girl(is your wife now) isn't virgin.Surely that u would feel angry if u think that on this body, there was another.So that please imagine about the girls who u did some dirty things.
So please protect virgins, they are fit to be respected.That's the beauti which God gave girls
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There are advantges
November 27, 2005 - 05:34 AM
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IN my opinon ,,,it is good to do that befor marraige ...marrige is apaper or contract as a defination .......but the soul and sexual relation is the core and most strong more than marriage it self ,,,love who let people to be with each other and not the form of marriage it self ,,,so what is the different if you want marraige one and you want do sex with her even befor or after that ......
i read lot of article about the advantge of sex at body of the human ,,,so if you want wait you will need more than 10 years to make asex with the one who want married her (avarege to marraige in any socety not less than 25 yaer)
then you can imagine if it is bad thing ,,,what is the alternative ,,,,,i feel it is more worse ......
i agree with that
,,,,but not all man look for virgin at a crtical point
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Re: Sex before marriage
December 3, 2005 - 09:26 AM
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It depends on the culture and the way of living... Maybe in developed countries, living together before marriage is ok. but for other countries' culture, people will not consider you a good citizen.
Besides, sex makes us healthy, it's undeniable. But everything should be balance, and depending on each situation we can choose the best solution
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diversity, anyone?
December 3, 2005 - 10:17 AM
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ok, what an interseting subject of discussion we have this. so, we are currently discussing about sex before marriage, is it wrong or right? ok, in my opinion, talking about sex is talking about the most fundamental part of human being. we all are sexual being-conciously or unconciously. especially Young people like us. now think about this: they (adults) always say that sex is bad, sex is sin, sex is devil, sex is desease so we are not to engage in sexual activity yet talking about it is such a BIG taboo (esp. in Asia) BUT, right after we exchange vows in an institution called MARRIAGE, they urge us immediately to have sex!! now imagine, if u never ever talk about it, never ever think about it, better yet never ever had any experience whatsoever then how will you enjoy it? or having the safe way?? do keep in mind that all the Sexual Transmitted Infections and HIV/AIDS do infect married people! so, the "sacred union" is not a guarantee.
i think what's important is that the adults have a responsibility to educate us-the youth on the matter of sexuality. not necesarily to urge us to have sex, but to lay of the facts on sexuality comprehensively. 'coz sexuality contains a whole lotta spectrum. we havent mention about sexual orientation, there are other orientation than heterosexual u know. so if u ask some young people with different sexual orientation this question: sex before marriage, right or wrong? how can they respond on that?
they do have sex you know...
so, it all come back to us: will we allow religion and culture take away our basic human right? to feel good about ourself and enjoying the feeling of love and be loved that God gives us?
the answer is in your heart my friend.
Let's celebrate Diversity!
Cheers,
Nino.
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Re: Sex before marriage
December 4, 2005 - 04:04 AM
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In my country, more and more young people have sex before getting married. I think this make them uhnderstand each other, but there are a lot of problems after that. Who will bring up the children when their parents are student and live on their family!
I actually disagree about this!
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having sex, is it dangerous?
December 4, 2005 - 04:51 AM
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thanhdungnl, i agree if sex in young people can create complication and risk. Unwanted Pregnancy or Teen Pregnancy is one of those risks and consequences. but then again, is HAVING SEX=Pregnancy?? no! Condoms is proved to be very effective (if used correctly) not to mention other contraception.
now think about this: do you really think Young People anywhere will not have sex? despite all the judgemental values of the society? i think we all need to be honest to our self and find the answer..
Thanks!
Nino.
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Re: Sex before marriage
December 5, 2005 - 01:50 AM
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Ethically, we should not have sex before marriage (I believe this is the common feeling in every culture). It also causes problems of health, life style (in case the female gets pregnant). But there's one thing above all of these. This's is personal freedom. So up to them to decide la. It's just like smoking and drinking. We can only persuade and public about the harm and consequence of having sex before marriage. Each couple must make their decision.
It dosen't make sense when we're talking about should or should'n here.
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Sex before Marriage - Redefining the Discussion
December 5, 2005 - 03:15 AM
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I am glad that Nino has brought up the possibilities of alternative lifestyles to this discussion.
For over 30 years I have worked as a counselor in Sexually Transmitted Diseases in the United States. Yes, I have seen many young teens who were infected with both curable and incurable infections (i.e, herpes and HIV). And I have heard the ongoing admonishments of not to have premarital sex.
But as a realist, I also recognize that in today's society, in this country, kids are entering puberty earlier than ever (I have counseled some girls having their periods as young as age 8; and even a few boys at 10 and 11 years old!). This is a significant change from only a hundred years ago boys did not begin puberty until nearly 16!
Much of this change, according to nutritional research, is due to the increases in food additives (hormones and other enhancements in beef and eggs, specifically) as well as a general significant change in the average American diet.
We, if we accept the premise that premarital sex is wrong, are demanding our youth to be sexually frustrated for ten to fourteen years, until they are "eligible" to get married. With the expectations of completing one's education (college or university) before getting married, the wait can be even longer.
Add on top of that, the discussion that Nino brought up, that gays and lesbians can NEVER get married, (in most societies), what expectations are we placing upon our youth today?
To deny all sex is totally unrealistic. So what should the alternatives be?
• Should non-vaginal penetration be encouraged? Or oral sex be encouraged? (These options would certainly 'preserve" our girl's tecnhical virginity, if that is so all important.)
• Should we encourage same sex experimentation more openly? (Obviously, it would need to be non-exploitive and disease free. How can this be assured?)
• What about mutual masturbation?
• How can we remove the stigma of “getting caught doing ‘it,’”(solo masturbation)?
• Do we need to redefine “marriage?”
What should be allowed/encouraged to release the pressure valve of ten plus years of teenage hormones raging through today's youth?
Denial will not work.
Just saying "no" does not work.
So then, what are we realistically left with?
Let's begin to discuss alternatives.
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sex before marriage
December 5, 2005 - 03:52 AM
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It is wrong especially when one gets to have it with many people before marriage.Most people enter into a lot of relationships before marriage and so if they have sex with every other person they go out with, then when they finally get get married, they will probably transmit STI's to their partner. If anyone has a habit, it is difficult to stop it, so even after marriage, this person might still have multiple partners.I would like to urge ladies to take control in such matters because sex occurs within their bodies, they are at more risk of getting STI's and after all they are the ones who get pregnant then everyone else will know they had sex unlike their male counterparts who carry no sign that they have done it.
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