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traci
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to be a woman
April 30, 2005 - 09:59 AM
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We grow up as women thinking that we are able to do anything, to achieve anything that we work towards. We are empowered and feel like we are respected... until we watch the news and hear about all sorts of violent acts that are being committed against women everyday, and how as women we need to take extra precautions in order to protect ourselves. Suddenly it doesn't seem like we are really able to conquer every roadblock that stands in our way of greatness.
Everyday that we face fears of walking alone in the dark and of being in a situation where we cannot protect ourselves we are reminded of our weaknesses, and that we can be controlled and made to do things against our will by any individual at any moment. It's a horrible feeling thinking that no matter how much we prepare ourselves or learn how to defend ourselves against mistreatment from others, that we can lose control at any point. It's not fair, and it's something that all women must face. This fear serves as a huge disadvantage for women, one that shows us that maybe we can't control everything in our lives. Instead, everytime we walk in a dark parking lot, we will always tense up. We cannot trust men that we don't know very well, because at any time they could turn on us. As women, we are reduced to feelings of constant paranoia. This paranoia controls many aspects of our lives.
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Re: to be a woman
April 30, 2005 - 12:37 PM
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Well, though am not a woman i must say i feel what u are saying and i also know it's 100% true.
It's really pity that these days that we are talking about how to make the world a better place for us,how to do away with poverty,war,diseases.....and so on,most people still have the time to harbour unfair and wicked treatments against the women in their hearts.I think it's really a shameful act to those that does such things.
I mean all our lives we take from women,We are given birth to by women,cared for by women,when in trouble we run to our mothers.........i think it's time we stop taking from the women and start repaying them for their kindness and care for us all these years.
Those of us who treat women badly and unfairly,should stop it now,cos there is no reason for it,women have been made to suffer for so long,it's time they started resting and enjoying freedom to walk freely at night,freedom to walk past a man in a lonely place without having to fear a thing.......pls.
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Re: to be a woman
April 30, 2005 - 12:37 PM
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Yes, I agree, there is a constant paranoia we (women) have developed of being alone and being in unfamiliar places. As women we still can achieve all. We can achieve all that men can do and more. Our only weakness is that we are not as strong as the male gender. But that dosen't mean we are weak. We just have to be more careful. And a REAL man would not hurt a woman nor anyone else. They would not be soo pathetic and desperate to rape a woman or in recent cases other men as well. Women aren't alone in the fight against men, other men are too. So we are not alone. And not just because men can over power us, mean sthat we are weak. Yes, in many cases we can not defend ourselves but we need to be smart. This is not a mans' world and that needs to be known. Only thing that women must remember is let them know where thier bondaries are and that 'No' means 'No' and there is no alternate meaning.
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Re: to be a woman
May 1, 2005 - 04:14 AM
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Originally posted by sarah-nasser
Women aren't alone in the fight against men, other men are too. So we are not alone. And not just because men can over power us, mean sthat we are weak.
I really wish women would speak on their own individual behalves. I am not in any fight with men and I am not paranoid or afraid when I walk outside in the dark where I live, and I am always alone wherever I go. It would be considerate to others in the world if people would make an effort to open up their minds a little and consider, before writing, the range of differences in societies and cultures the world over.
It is not about men. You speak as if the woman is just an innocent, perpetual victim of the man and that she herself has never used power over anyone in life or even in history.
The issue is about a person, not a man, using power over a person who is weaker and vulnerable, at another's mercy and dependent on that person's goodness and morality to not abuse their power. Such abuse is utterly despicable and repulsive, be it of a physical nature or a psychological one. Women do it too. Physical strength is only one form of strength, the most obvious form, and, to the extent that I have experienced forms of abuse and mistreatment, because it is obvious, physical abuse potentially yields far less damage than psychological abuse.
Since a woman's strength is usually not physical, she uses the strengths that are natural to a woman to mistreat and abuse.
"They that have power to hurt and will do none,
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They rightly do inherit Heaven's graces,
And husband nature's riches from expense;
They are the lords and owners of their faces,
Others but stewards of their excellence."
- Shakespeare, Sonnet 94
"They that have the power" - it is not about men.
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Re: to be a woman
May 1, 2005 - 09:05 AM
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With the current media reports it seems that violence against women is increasing.But i think it's been the same.
Now how should we make the world a better place for women?
If we make the punishment more severe say a DeathPenalty ,do u think the women are safe?
I think the attitude towards women should change.They should not be taken for granted.A victim should not be ignored by the society.
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being a woman.
May 4, 2005 - 01:12 AM
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Its all true there has been discrimination and violence against the women folk, but the questions remains how many women are ready to come out take the challenge and speak at these things. well juging from the local African communinity many women dose not find it necessary to fight for thier rights they find femminists who speack againt and fights for women right as women who are not obedient and respectful of our culture and values that has been a problem.
So I felt much woprk is to be done to encourage these women and I also encourage men to join the fight and speak out againt denial of women rights.
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Re: to be a woman
May 5, 2005 - 09:46 AM
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as i sit here and read everyone's comments i find that i am fighting with myself on this issue, on the one hand i am saying, i will never fear a man and will never allow myself to fear men as i do not belive that they are stronger than us, after all if women were so weak why is it the female who has to endure labour for countless hours,
but on the other hand, i live in a country where little girls are raped and women are raped as close as one every ten minutes ( or so the stats show) and i ask myself how i cannot fear when this is happening all around me?
and the truth is that i as a women in this day and age do fear men... you have to, as much as you can try and believe that you can protect yourself when you have a 200 pound man on top of you there is not much you could do!
funnily enough i saw a bus travelling up the road in the city, and painted on it was a half a mans face and on the other half an ape's face and it said your only half a man if you rape a women.. what is that suppose to mean? its basically saying like ok go out and rape a woman cos you will atleast still be half a man!!!!! more like if you rape a woman,girl,child.. anyone for that matter you are no better than the ameoba that feed on fleas that feed on rats!!!
it is truly sad that we have to be afraid, in this day and age when women are meant to be equal
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Re: to be a woman
May 7, 2005 - 02:23 AM
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I don't remember what show this was where they were showing this bullet proof/rape proof jacket for women. It looked pretty trendy too. And if someone was to touch you or harass you, rather... you could squeeze the jacket (or press something on it?) that would produce an electric shock strong enough that would prevent your assailant from being able to grab you or attack you. And it doesn't shock you though. Pretty neat! I think we all could go invest in that. Especially if there's a need for us to be walking around alone in the middle of the night in inconspicuous places. 
- mX
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Re: to be a woman
May 7, 2005 - 04:36 AM
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i have to disagree with some points that you have mentioned here. yes women are being abused all the time and yes women can be weak but only if they allow this to happen. it is ot our destiny to be afraid all the time no it is not i refuse to believe this it is up to you no to feel afraid in the dark it is up to you to believe that you are strong enough to face any danger it is up to you to refuse to let any body harm you it is all in your hand. what you are doing now is that youbelieve all what othes have to say abt us women you are doing exactly what they want you do not trust yourself and you think that just being a woman mean that you are weak but this is not true coz even men have their fears and they are no better than us so please be proud of being a woman and always remeber that the sky is your limit and that no body can hold you back unless you give him the right.
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Re: to be a woman
May 9, 2005 - 03:30 AM
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Sexism can be turned against women and it can be turned against men as well. From reading some of posts here, I get a strange feeling that there is absured generalization against all men as if they are demonic or sub-human!
The truth is BOTH genders contribute to the problem although men may have the larger share of the blame.
I agree that the person who has the power, be it man or woman, may become abusive to the ones he/she has contol over.
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Just believe we are always the strongest :)
May 21, 2005 - 08:26 AM
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This feeling of pranoia or weakness, is not exclusive to women. Men, as well, fear as much as we bo. After all it is a human uncontrolable feeling, still if you feel weak u will be weak. The only thing we must do is to feel in control and never abandon such a feeling; always be alerted and aware and no harm can get u. I know one thing if I totally believe i can protect myself, if i get attacked, i will fight back with a super human power 
Good Luck for all of u out there vicious fighters ;D
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Re: to be a woman
May 22, 2005 - 05:10 AM
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hey mr palestenian,
you say that sexism is something that both genders contripute to the problem ok so can you tell me why then if a man get harrassed by a woman or let's say "abused" by a woman all the society no matter it's religion culture, background is attacks the woman and blame all the women of the world to be what they are and portray the man as the poor victim that could not help it. but if a woman get raped and not only abused all the blame lie on her coz of one reason or another. I agree it is not a man/woman thing it is a society thing. It is a society under the male domination that caused the women not to feel safe coz she nos quite well that if she was abused she will be blamed and will be the victim that no one would like to talk abt. again it is not that i'm against men coz i'm not. i'm only states the fact. and believe me i no the facts. i live the facts.
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Women rule
June 16, 2005 - 11:32 AM
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Well actually we have suffered a lot and women have actually had to work for our rights. I believe that its the nature of a man to put women down there's nothing we can do about that. I think sexism has to stop. Although I may seem a little sexist because of my outlook on men. but I am not I just believe that men need to except the fact women can accomplish things too and we have the same rights they do we are all equal.
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ARE YOU A FEMINAZI ? AND WHY DO WOMEN ADRESS WOMEN PROBLEMS TIO WOMEN?
July 21, 2005 - 05:15 AM
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Guys i love women i adore women i admire women i respect woment and i fully support women because we are her because of them irrigardless of with we like it or not!
i only have one question why do women address women problems to women?Look at this forum discussion how many many do you see here<Its cause they adress all their issue to themselves:You find a forum discussion telling us how they are battered PLEASE for heavens sake let men disscuss it and see what it feel like.men will never know what you feel like unless you adress them with thses isues and hit them HARD and on the right places and st the right time.i feel lots of women are making a mistake by addressing their problems to trhemselves sorry but thats what i think look at what happened in Beijing and later the New york womens conference Good Gracious me get a life and address the beating and all thiss paranoia addressed to the peole who Cause it MEN! MEN! MEN!and look they will always blame you sorr to my Muslim sisters but lets talk a little about what happened in the Garden of Eden just right after Adam had eaten the fruit he told God its this Woman who you gave me!Look he had just previously had the first poem ever recited in History about the woman he was now saying God gave him!
Men will always be men address this issues to Them and not to yourself!But i am happy this TOPIC has been raised!
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Women rule
July 21, 2005 - 12:03 PM
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Originally posted by dancyprancy
Although I may seem a little sexist because of my outlook on men.
I would have to agree, I may seem sexist because my poor outlook on men, but I only have this outlook due to the way I have been treated. Guys you can blame my step-dad for that one.
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