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The concept of Fear
February 8, 2005 - 05:32 AM
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Yes, the 'F' word, FEAR. What is fear?.......What is fear? This is a never-ending question and I have never came to any direct conclusion on this topic. Well here's my desperate attempt to analyze this feeling. Personally, My biggest fears (Other then God)would be failure and regection (I know, kinda broad). Therefore, I do the best I can to avoid them by any means possible, simple because I know if I were to face those situations, I will be alone, and have to rely on myself. I just realized that thats my weakness. I don't take faliure and rejection too well. I can't really fight it and I don't have that strength in myself. I know some are afraid of the dark, spiders, dreams, fire, etc. Those afraid of the dark try not to go out at night and constantly check thier light bulbs. Those afraid of bugs hate going to the park and the outside and keep to the confines of thier home having thier doors and windows shut at all times. So stuff leik that. What are your own fears? What sense have you made of this feeling? Do you find yourself held prision by ur own fears? What do you do to prevent that from occuring?
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February 8, 2005 - 07:28 AM
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fear is the absence of love. please love yourself, have faith in yourself. self-love replaces fear. you have courage. take it further.
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Fear and Prayer can Be Opposite Sides of the Same Coin???
February 9, 2005 - 01:01 AM
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Fear in the right sittuations can allow your subcontiant to respond very quickly to a danger but Fear for Fears sake alone will always bring bad results.
One of the longest relationships with a girl friend was with a girl who was teribly afraid of Snakes, we both love to walk in the woods, fields, and meadows and without fail, if it was not really cold, she would find atleast one snake and she would see them from distants that I would not beleive if I had not been there and on hot days we found all kinds of snakes.
Like if You fear You will fail at any and all tasks You will Fail at almost all You Even try to do and soon You won't Even try any more. I guess it is like You are only as strong as Your worst Enemy, guess Who is all ways showing up, have You ever thought maybe The Universe wants the 2 of You to Strength Your other ONE,. gene
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Re: The concept of Fear
February 9, 2005 - 01:58 AM
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"use fear as your motor"
loads of ppl say that and i tried it out a few days ago to see if it really works or if its just one of those sayings. it worked and i was proud. my frendz laughed at me, "so? whats so speacial? you brought out the garbage...alone in the dark...wow! i do that everyday"
but i belive if you have fear of sumthing you shud really use it as a source of energy...
i was about to run back into the house and call my mom to go up to the garbage with me but i didnt. i took another step and a another. and suddenly i was there. and i was proud. now im not scared at all of the dark. just that one trip to the grabage can in the dark alone took away all my fear.
just a thought.
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Re: The concept of Fear
February 9, 2005 - 02:05 AM
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Originally posted by reubertochter
"use fear as your motor"
loads of ppl say that and i tried it out a few days ago to see if it really works or if its just one of those sayings. it worked and i was proud. my frendz laughed at me, "so? whats so speacial? you brought out the garbage...alone in the dark...wow! i do that everyday"
but i belive if you have fear of sumthing you shud really use it as a source of energy...
i was about to run back into the house and call my mom to go up to the garbage with me but i didnt. i took another step and a another. and suddenly i was there. and i was proud. now im not scared at all of the dark. just that one trip to the grabage can in the dark alone took away all my fear.
just a thought. Good for you! I tried putting myself in a glass elevator to try to "cure" my fear of heights...but it backfired! I've never been so scared in my life! The fear of heights has also turned into a fear of flying now that I am older. I used to be ok with flying, but now I'm a big scaredy-poo.
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Brian my friend let's climb a tree
February 9, 2005 - 08:12 AM
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I am asuming you are in for a game of getting you back up a tree
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Brian my friend let's climb a tree
February 9, 2005 - 08:23 AM
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Originally posted by NugeneIAm
I am asuming you are in for a game of getting you back up a treeFunny you should mention trees! That's one of the only places on earth I feel truly safe...climbing a tree. I can climb a tree like a monkey, but get me in a glass elevator and I turn to jelly. = ) I used to climb a very tall tree when I was young to pick fruit! Somebody explain this to me.
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Lack of love for self
February 9, 2005 - 08:26 AM
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"fear is the absence of love. please love yourself, have faith in yourself. self-love replaces fear. you have courage. take it further."
'clfisher' that makes a lot of sense. Are you implying that ALL fears are lack of love for self or just mine??
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Facing ones' own fear
February 9, 2005 - 08:32 AM
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Very well writtin 'Crimson_Shark.' That is what I meant by how ppl shouldn't become prisoners in thier own fear. It's good that you face your own fear and do your best to control yourself once you do encounter it. I thinks that something everyone needs to practice. And you are right,"There is no-one who is without fear."
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fear
February 9, 2005 - 10:17 AM
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Originally posted by clfisher
fear is the absence of love. please love yourself, have faith in yourself. self-love replaces fear. you have courage. take it further. I think this is on target. It takes a bit more work to overcome true phobias (mine is fear of heights!) though. I have tried different tricks to break myself of this fear and I think now I am afraid of heights more than ever. ; )
I have struggled with these same fears of failure Sarah. There are many things I could have accomlished if I had: worked harded, been less scared, not given up. In my case, I have learned to be less afraid when I try to move forward and acheive, but it is still a struggle sometimes!
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Re: The concept of Fear
February 9, 2005 - 10:21 AM
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"What is fear?" It can be an absence of love. It can also be a natural reaction to something that may harm us or make us feel bad. Fear is a defensive mechanism in many cases. I guess the trick is to manage your fears when they start taking over your emotions and decision making abilities. I have a big fear (not a phobia) of interrupting people, but being in the working world for a while has broken me of that. I think this has kept me from asking for help in college when I really needed it. I guess I felt more secure giving up sometimes. It's easier!
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The Tree thing...
February 9, 2005 - 10:31 AM
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Perhaps you fell out? Most fear is because of some negative event or feeling; you might not remember it, but I'm betting it happened.
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Re: The concept of Fear
February 9, 2005 - 11:22 AM
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I fear materialism the most. It's a mission to withstand being consumed by the media and the messages they convey. buy this buy that. Look like this. Not like that. It's insanely easy to lose focus and start to give in. I try to maintain a healthy balance in regards to pop culture. but. you know. I see these iPod adds everywhere. I'm suprised they dont advertise in public bathrooms yet. Atleast, not In my area. Sigh. Ce la vie.
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Fear
February 9, 2005 - 12:42 PM
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Personaly I try and face my fears, does not always work but more often then not it does. I am afraid of spiders, none of the other arachnids bother me though, just spiders. Now this does not keep me locked in my apartment, rather I go out and enjoy myself and if I happen upon a spider then I try not to freak out...lol....and either ignore the horrid little thing or I show it the bottom of my boot. Everyone has their own way to deal with fear, you have to look into yourself and determine if you are going to let fear control you or if you can learn to set your fear aside and continue with your life. I make it seem like it is no big thing, don't get me wrong it is a hard thing to do, but once you do face your fears then you realise that it is OK to be afraid and that it is not as bad as you might have thought, that is just part of life. There is no-one who is without fear.
Just my thoughts.
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Re: The concept of Fear
February 13, 2005 - 01:10 AM
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FEAR .
I bleive that i am afraid i am not .. i am afaid of Sharks and Wild Bears, I am afraid of Death and death of someone i love, I am afraid of interupting people, and i am afraid of Israel Government nuclear bomb few miles away from my city , I am afraid of not finding love and i am afraid of materializim possible domination of the world's morals...what else??.. i am afraid of agenda setting theories in media and i am afraid of my future children's safety, I am afraid of terrifying nations and the terrorisim.mmmmm I can not recall otehr fears..
YES i am afraid of many things, and i belive that three factors determine fear:
The surounding environment /cirumistances
The Childhood life and our previous experiences (Our knowledge)
Our perceptions
FEAR lives in mind and it either manage to occupy it or form an inducer to develope it by making it question things, people and life esances.
fear is vital to our being and existance. question is how to get aware to its presence and manage it .
I believe through prays and by prays i mean ( being alone connected with the absolute power u beleive in) . such prays =connections, empowers and charge , such connections clarify and get us closer to the essances .
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